True or False
True or False:
Consent is the SAME THING as permission?
False!
Consent requires ALL people to agree.
Permission requires approval from ONE person.
Consent is when ALL people involved agree to something
You want to borrow a shirt from your friend.
What could you say?
Hey, I was wondering if it was okay if I used your shirt?
I will return it after I'm finished using it.
Someone shakes their head "No"
Is this a verbal, or nonverbal way of saying "No".
Nonverbal.
Remember, nonverbal communication uses body language and gestures to say no.
Someone says "No".
Are they giving their consent?
No, they are saying very clearly they don't want to.
True or False:
You don't need to say yes to doing something because someone else wants you to.
TRUE!
You never need to say yes to something, you don't want to!
1 person agrees to a hug.
1 person does not agree to a hug.
Has consent been given?
NO!
BOTH people need to agree to a hug.
You and your friend are sitting outside at the park. All of a sudden it gets TOO hot and you are uncomfortable. You now want to go home.
What could you say?
It's too hot for me and I would like to go home.
Someone says "YES, I WOULD LOVE A HUG"
Is this verbal, or nonverbal?
It is verbal.
They are using their words to say "YES"!
Someone says "yes".
Are they consenting?
Yes. They have clearly said they want to.
True or False:
It can be hard to say "no" to someone who has power (like an adult or a boss).
True!
Sometimes we may feel pressured to say yes to someone who has power (like an adult or a boss), even if we want to.
2 people agree to go for lunch.
Is consent given?
Yes!
All people want to go for lunch!
Your make plans to see your friend on the weekend. They bring you a drink without asking you. You don't like the drink they bring you.
What would you do?
You can say...
"hey, I appreciate you bringing the drink, but I don't like that flavor. Next time, would you mind asking me what I would like?"
Someone gives a thumbs down when you ask them for a hug.
Is this verbal or nonverbal?
It is nonverbal.
They are using gestures to say "no".
Someone says "I want to do that, but not right now"
Are they giving their consent?
No, they are saying they don't want to do it right now.
True or False:
Getting consent freely means that someone won't stop asking you to do something until you agree.
FALSE!
Freely given consent means that someone is not pressuring you into saying yes. You say YES because YOU want to!
True or False:
You NEVER have to say yes when you don't want to.
TRUE!
You never have to say yes to something you DON'T want to do!
You are at the fair with a friend. You are scared of the REALLY big rollercoasters. Your friend asks to go on the BIGGEST, SCARIEST rollercoaster, and you get a NO feeling.
What would you do?
You can be honest with how you feel and say "I don't like the big rollercoasters. I REALLY like the smaller ones, maybe we can ride those ones together?"
Someone says "I don't know if I am really want to do that"
Is it verbal, or nonverbal communication?
It is verbal!
They are using their words to say they are not sure if they want to do something.
Someone says to you "I feel good about this!" when you ask them for a hug.
Are they agreeing to it?
Yes! They feel good about what you are asking them.
True or False:
Permission is a ONE WAY agreement (this means only one person agrees)
Consent is a TWO way agreement (this means that BOTH people involved agree)
TRUE!
What does respect for others mean?
regard for rights, wishes, feelings of others
Your friend calls and asks you to get together. They say they want to go see a scary movie. You don't like scary movies.
They say "c'mon, PLEASE! I really want to go!! PLEASSEEEE. C'mon, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE. JUST COME WITH ME!!
What would you do?
You can say "I am NOT comfortable watching a scary movie. I don't like them and they make me scared".
Also, I don't like being pressured into saying yes!
Someone puts their hand up to stop you from hugging them.
Is this verbal or nonverbal?
It is nonverbal.
They are using gestures to tell you to stop!
You ask someone to go out to a dinner.
They are avoiding eye contact with you and looking somewhere else.
Are they agreeing to go for dinner?
No. They are trying to avoid eye contact with you and did not give you an answer.
That's okay! They may not want to go for dinner, so you can ask someone else!