Expected vs Unexpected
During an outside game, someone bumps into you and immediately says, "Sorry." You say, "That's OK" and continue playing the game. Is your behavior expected or unexpected?
Expected! The person apologized and didn't mean to bump you. You kept calm and continue on with the game knowing it was just an accident.
In class your teacher says you are going to do a math game. You loudly say "UGH this is so dumb! Do we have to do this? I hate this game"
Is this a say it or a think it thought? How do you think this makes your teacher feel?
Think it. This comment is not kind and probably hurts your teacher's feelings. She might feel sad because she spent a lot of time creating a game to try to make math more fun.
You walk into class while everyone is quietly working and whisper to your teacher "What are we working on?" What kind of behavior is this?
Expected
In class you are working on a big worksheet. Everyone in your class is already way farther than you. You are starting to feel frustrated and overwhelmed because you don't know where to start. What should you do?
Ask your teacher for help. Ask if they can explain the parts you are stuck on or break it into smaller parts. Ask if they can help get you started.
How many arms do most starfish have?
5
You are playing a team game in gym/p.e. Your team does not win. You immediately begin stomping your feet and yelling, "This game is stupid! I'm never playing that game again!"
What type of behavior is this? What is another way to respond?
Unexpected
Step away and take deep breaths, tell the other team "good game", drink water
Your friend comes to school wearing a shirt that you think looks awful. She asks you how you like the shirt. How can you respond in a way that uses an "expected behavior" and doesn't hurt her feelings?
Tell her that you like her other shirt better
Tell her that it looks okay
Tell her that if she likes it, then that's all that matters. We all like different things.
You are at recess and your friend is being mean to you. What do you do?
Politely tell them to stop bothering you and walk away. If they don't stop then go talk to an adult on the playground.
One of your friends asks you if you can do their work for them.
What do you do/say?
Politely tell them that although you are friends, you don't feel comfortable cheating because you can both get in trouble.
What is the golden rule?
Treat other the way you would want to be treated
Someone accidentally bumps into you as you are walking in the hall changing classes. You want to scream at them, but instead you wait five seconds and take a breath. What kind of behavior is this?
Expected Behavior! Even though you were upset and wanted to scream, you waited 5 seconds and took a breath to calm down instead of yelling.
A boy in your class has really bad breath. It makes it hard to talk to him. You want to tell him "You should really brush your teeth more. Your breath stinks!"
Is this a say it or a think it comment?
Think it! It is rude to say that. What could we say instead if he is a good friend but we do think his breath stinks?
Ex: I like to chew gum sometimes during the day, it helps me focus and keeps my breath minty fresh! Do you like to chew gum? or Would you like a piece?
or
I just went to the dentist, it feels so good to have clean teeth! Have you been recently?
The person at the desk next to you is talking very loudly during Independent work time. You are trying to focus on your work but the talking is distracting you and you are starting to get annoyed. What should you do?
Ask the person to please speak quietly.
Ask your teacher if you can work somewhere else in the room.
Ask your teacher if you can put your headphones on during work time.
If you are getting upset ask if you can take a break or get a drink.
You don't have all of the materials you need to complete an activity in class. What do you do?
Ask your teacher for the materials so you can complete the activity.
Which fish has no brain or heart?
Jelly Fish
You feel yourself starting to get nervous at school. What is an expected behavior in this situation?
Ask the teacher if you can take a break
Talk to a friend, mentor, or trusted adult
Drink water
Take 10 deep breaths
Use a quiet fidget
Tommy comes into school crying. Jim looks at Tommy and says "You are such a cry baby!"
Was this a say it or think it thought? How do you think Jim's comment made Tommy feel?
Think it. Jim's comment probably made Tommy feel sad, hurt, and embarrassed. Can you give a better example of how Jim could have reacted?
You and your classmates are playing a board game. Your classmate ends up winning and you come in last place. You yell and say they must have cheated because you deserve to win.
Was this an appropriate response? What should you have said instead?
This was an unexpected response. It's okay if you don't win every time. There will be more opportunities to play games.
Instead, you could've said "Good job!" or "You're good at this game!"
You and your friends are hanging out in the gym. You are trying to decide what to do. You say you want to play tag but your friend says you should play basketball. Your other friend says "I think both of those sound fun". The friend who suggested basketball says "Ok we're going to go do basketball then because that's better."
Should you get upset that they didn't pick your activity? What could you say or do in this situation?
Make a compromise.
Suggest playing basketball for a little bit and then play tag.
Or pick a different activity that you all agree on, like playing on the swings.
What is the largest bird?
Ostrich
Your teacher asks a question to the class. You are sure you know the answer, so you raise your hand. The teacher calls on someone else. You shout out the answer anyway.
Is this an expected or unexpected behavior?
Unexpected.
Your friend comes to school wearing a shirt you really like. You say "Your shirt is super cool!".
Is this a think it or say it comment?
Say it!
You and a partner are paired up for partner reading. Your partner is reading slow and sounding out the words. Sometimes he even mispronounces them. When he gets stuck on a word you just say the word so it goes faster and when he mispronounces it you correct him. After you do it for the 4th time he balls up his fists says "I can read fine thanks"
How do you think your partner is feeling? Why? What should you do?
Your partner is getting frustrated that you keep correcting him and jumping in. You should ask your partner if he would like help when he gets stuck or if he prefers to do it on his own. You could also ask him if he would like you to read it all and you can answer the questions together.
You and a friend got into an argument at recess and you are upset. You talked to a teacher at recess and settled the disagreement. When you come in from recess and sit down to start your work all you can think about is the disagreement and that you are still very upset.
What can you do?
Talk to your classroom teacher and explain the situation and that while it got resolved it is still bothering you.
Ask your teacher if you can take a break to get back on track so you can do your work.
Ask your teacher if they can talk through it with you to help process the emotions.
What is the largest planet in our solar system
Jupiter