Freud and Jung
This Austrian doctor from Vienna is often called the father of talk therapy.
Sigmund Freud
“I don't have a problem. I can stop anytime.”
Denial
Monty Python's Black Knight loses both arms and insists, “’Tis but a scratch!”
Denial
According to the shadow work presentation, the shadow is NOT all this.
Negative / bad
This emotion's message is “I lost something that mattered to me.”
Sadness
This Level 4 defense means helping others in order to help yourself.
Altruism
Jung's name for the parts of ourselves we hide, deny, or don't even see.
The shadow
“I'm not angry. YOU'RE the one who's angry!”
Projection
In Step Brothers, two grown men throw tantrums at the family dinner table.
Regression (and acting out)
Anger's flip side: it protects these.
Your boundaries (it signals something is unfair)
Guilt says “I did something bad.” This feeling says “I AM bad.”
Shame
Planning ahead for a stressful situation instead of dreading it.
Anticipation
Back when Jung was his chosen successor, Freud gave him this royal nickname.
The “crown prince”
Your boss yells at you, so you come home and yell at your kids.
Displacement
In The Office, Michael Scott insists his business is definitely not a pyramid scheme.
Rationalization
Jealousy's flip side: it points you toward this.
What you really want
Name the three parts of an emotion we talked about.
Body, story, urge
This psychiatrist organized defense mechanisms into four levels of maturity.
George Vaillant
Freud's big idea: much of what drives us happens below our awareness, in this part of the mind.
The unconscious
“After the week I had, I deserved it.”
Rationalization
In Mean Girls, Regina George says “I love your skirt,” then trashes it as soon as the girl walks away.
Reaction formation / passive aggression
Name 3 of the shadow work presentation 6 aspects of the shadow.
Any 3 of: fear & trauma, repressed emotions, hidden potential, desires, social disapproval, traits & qualities
This family role hides fear behind “I've got it all handled.”
The Hero
Brené Brown says shame needs these three things to grow.
Secrecy, silence, and judgment
The year Freud wrote to Jung proposing they end their personal relationship. They never made up.
1913
Being extra sweet to someone you secretly resent.
Reaction formation
In The Bear, Carmie pours his grief and chaos into intense, focused work in the kitchen.
Sublimation (a mature defense)
Fill in Jung's blank: “Everything that ______ us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
Irritates
This family role often gets labeled “the problem” and carries the family's unspoken pain.
The Scapegoat
Using jokes to dodge hard questions is avoiding humor. Using jokes to admit how absurd our past was is this kind.
Healing humor