Family Conflict
What is an example of a common conflict in your family? What is a typical response you have? Is there something you would like to do differently in the future?
Any honest answer
List all of the family rules you can think of.
When someone is _______, they might yell, grunt, or get red.
What is angry/mad
What is a value?
A set of traits, actions, or qualities that are important to a family or person.
What do you most love about your family?
Anything positive is the right answer! :) Negative answers get no points.
You get your something taken away for a week/in trouble for talking back to someone in the family. What is the best way to respond?
Stay calm, listen, and be respectful.
Your choice!
Your mom tells you that you cannot play a videogame because you did not do your chores. You are so angry that you want to throw something or hurt someone. What should you do?
First find a way to calm down (take a breath, go for a walk, etc.) Then, find a way to make the situation better -- do your chores, apologize to mom, and then find something else to do if you are unable to play the game.
What are some values in your home?
*personalized response that shows knowledge of the definition of the value
What is something fun that you can do with your family?
Any real and fun activity is good!
Your sibling stole your favorite shirt and wore it to school. While there, they spilled part of their lunch on the shirt, leaving a stain. You are really upset and frustrated. How can you manage this?
Talk with your sibling using I feel statements, or other calm assertive communication to let them know how you feel. You cannot change the past, but can set things up for them to go differently in the future.
What is a family rule that you think you need?
Your choice!
Your mom worked all day then came home to make dinner and asked you to clean your room 3 times but you are busy doing something else. The dog had an accident all over the house and while she was cleaning that up, dinner burned in the oven. How might she be feeling?
Stressed, overwhelmed, frustrated, tired
Can values from one family member to another be different?
Yes, each person in a family brings their own unique perspective. Some values will be shared as a family, while some will be individual.
Is there anything you wish you could change about your family?
Any honest answer is good.
Your parents ask you to do a task that feels hard and you don't want to do it. What are two ways to manage this without the problem becoming a conflict?
Examples:
Use coping skills, ask for help, break up the task into smaller steps.
What family rule have you broken before?
Any honest answer is good
What are some signs that a person might be feeling sad or depressed?
Not getting out of bed, crying, low mood, no energy, does not enjoy things like they used to
How can you respect another family members' values?
Get to know their values, understand why they are important, honor the values through your behaviors.
What's your family favorite memory?
Any memory gets you points!
No one in your family is giving you any attention and you feel bored. You ask them to do a few different things with you but they say no to every one. You call text some friends but no one responds. You feel lonely. What can you do?
Tell your family that you are feeling lonely and bored and would like some support. Find something to do that is enjoyable to do alone.
Clarissa is grounded. She was supposed to be home by 10pm and did not come home until midnight. What family rule did she break?
Curfew
Name 5 positive emotions.
Happy, joyful, confident, excited, energetic, proud, loved, hopeful, etc.
Can values change as times goes by? If so, how and why?
Yes, families and people change as they gain new life experience and perspective
What are you grateful for about your family?
Any real answer gets you 500 points!