Tell Your Partner
What is one thing your family member has done that has made you happy?
Listened, loved you, bought you something, came to your sports games, etc.
What is one thing you can do to help yourself feel better when you are mad or upset?
Take a deep breath, talk about your feelings, watch a funny video, punch a pillow, etc.
You felt really mad and yelled at your family member. You said some mean things when you were mad and you wish you could take them back. What should you do next?
Apologize, explain how you were feeling, talk about what you could have done differently, practice what you will do next time you feel mad, etc.
Tell me about a time you felt happy.
Who was there with you?
Show me what someone would look like when they are happy.
Smiling, laughing, eyes wide, etc.
What is the easiest thing to talk to your family member about? Why?
Your day, school, pets, tv shows, etc.
Where do you feel safe and why?
Home, parents room, car, hotel, friend's house, cousin's house, etc.
You notice that your family member is upset. They are crying. What should you do next?
Ask them what's wrong, talk to them about their feelings, try to cheer them up, give them a hug, etc.
Tell me about a time you felt sad.
What helped you to feel not sad afterwards?
Show me what someone would look like when they are sad.
Crying, head down, pouting, hiding their face, etc.
What is your favorite memory that you have with your family member?
Movies, vacations, sports, holidays, activities, etc.
Who can you talk to if you need help coping?
Parents, grandparents, counselors, teachers, friends, cousins, aunts/uncles, siblings, etc.
You accidentally broke one of your family members favorite things. It was an accident, but they might be mad. What should you do next?
Apologize, tell them it was an accident, offer to help clean it up, offer to help buy them a new one, ask what you can do to help them feel better, give them a hug, give them some space, etc.
Tell me about a time that you felt mad.
What helped calm you down?
Show me what someone would look like when they are mad.
Making fists, scrunched up eyes, lips tight, arms crossed, yelling, etc.
What is the hardest thing to talk to your family member about? Why?
What would make it easier to talk to them about this?
What is one new coping skill you would like to try this week?
Take a deep breath, count to 10, talk about your feelings, go for a jog, do jumping jacks, scream into a pillow, draw a picture, read a book, watch a funny video, take a bubble bath, etc.
You are really tired and have been working hard on school/work all day. Your family member asks you to hang out with them. You feel so tired that you don't want to. What should you do next?
Tell your family member you are tired, pick another time you could hang out together, offer to do something relaxing together like watch a movie, etc.
Tell me about a time that you felt scared.
What helped to make you feel better?
Show me what someone would look like when they are scared.
Big eyes, mouth open, hiding, shaking, crying, etc.
What are 3 things you love about your family member?
Funny, nice, smart, respectful, brave, determined, etc.
What is one coping skill you think your family member should try?
Take a deep breath, count to 10, talk about your feelings, go for a jog, do jumping jacks, scream into a pillow, draw a picture, read a book, watch a funny video, take a bubble bath, etc.
You were playing a game together as a family. Another person in your family wins. You feel so mad because you really wanted to win. What should you do next?
Tell me about a time that you felt loved.
How could you do that again with your family member?
Show me what someone would look like when they feel loved.
Smiling, laughing, hugging, etc.