Scapegoat
T/F: Characteristic are: Shy and quiet
False
T/F: Characteristic are attaches to people
True
T/F: Characteristic are super-responsible
T/F:Characteristics are hyperactive and distracting
False
T/F: Characteristic are follow rules and seeks approval
False
What are inside characteristics?
rejection, hurt, guilt, jealousy, and anger
What are inside characteristics?
rejection, hurt, and anxiety
True
What are inside characteristics?
Guilt, Hurt and inadequacy
What are inside characteristics?
fear, anxiety and insecurity
What does The Scapegoat represent to the family?
Takes the focus off the alcoholic
What does the Lost Child represent to the family?
Provides relief to family- one child we don't have to worry about
What does the Enabler represent to the family?
Responsibility; brings self worth to family
What does the Hero represent to the family?
Responsibility; brings self worth to the family
What does it represent to the family?
fun and humor; comic relief
What are the characteristic?
attracts negative attentions; won't complete with family hero
What are the characteristic?
"invisible"; quiet; no friends or cult followers; trouble making decisions
High achiever; good grades; "nice" friends; active in sports
What are the characteristics of the Hero?
High achiever; good grades; "nice" friends; active in sports
What are the characteristics of the Mascot?
Hyperactive; learning disabilities; short attention span
The Scapegoat is a family member who creates other problems and concerns in order to deflect attention away from the real issue. Why is this?
Oftentimes, the Scapegoat is very successful at distracting the family and others from the addicted individual.
The Lost Child is a family member who appears to be ignoring the problem completely. There could be a fight, with yelling and screaming, and the Lost Child will be absent or secluded from the situation. Why is this?
While the Lost Child will not be successful at drawing attention away from the family problem, he or she is able to avoid stress personally.
The Enabler is a family member who steps in and protects the alcoholic/addict from the consequences of his or her behavior; why is this?
The motivation for this may not be just to protect the alcoholic/addict, but to prevent embarrassment, reduce anxiety, avoid conflict or maintain some control over a difficult situation. The Enabler may try to clean up the messes caused by the alcoholic/addict and make excuses for him or her, thus minimizing the consequences of addiction.
The Hero is a family member who attempts to draw attention away from the alcoholic/addict by excelling, performing well and generally being “too good to be true.” Why is this?
The Hero has a hope that somehow his or her behavior will help the alcoholic/addict to stop using. Additionally, the Hero’s performance-based behavior helps to block emotional pain and disappointment.
The Mascot will often act out by “clowning around,” cracking jokes or making light of serious situations. Why is this?
The Mascot attempts to use humor as a means to escape from the pain of the problems caused by addiction.