Conflict resolution
Your parents ask you to do a task that feels hard and you don't want to do it. What are two ways to manage this without the problem becoming a conflict?
Use coping skills, ask for help, break up the task into smaller steps.
What is a boundary?
A set of rules and limits put in place by a person to keep them healthy and safe
What is a value?
Set of traits, actions, or qualities that are held important to a family or person.
What is a strength you bring to your family?
Great! Thanks for sharing.
Who is in your family?
Great- sounds like an awesome family!
Your brother stole your favorite shirt and wore it to school. While there, he spilled part of his lunch on the shirt, leaving a stain. You are really upset and frustrated. How can you manage this?
Talk with your brother, use I feel statements, or other calm assertive communication to let him know how you feel. You cannot change the past, but can set things up for them to go differently in the future.
What are some examples of boundaries in your home? List at least 5.
Your personal answer was great!
What are some values in your home?
Great, thanks for sharing!
What are 3 strengths of each of your parents?
Great - make sure to tell them you feel this way later today!
Do all families look the same?
No. Some families have two parents in the home, some parents live separately, some kids are not raised by their biological parents, some families have siblings, while others do not, some families are step families or blended families - the types of families are endless!
How can someone use assertive communication even when upset or in a conflict?
Remain calm, walk away from the situation until you are ready to talk calmly, stick to your point and take breaks if the conversation gets too heated.
Why are boundaries for adults different than they are for kids?
Adults have different roles and responsibilities that give them more independence and authority. Sometimes, adults can set boundaries and rules that kids cannot.
Can values from one family member to another be different? If so, how?
Yes, each person in a family brings their own unique perspective. Some values will be shared as a family, while some will be individual.
How do different family members strengths work together?
Everyone can contribute to support the family and make something we couldn't do alone easier!
What are two things you have in common with a family member of your choice. What are two things that are different about you and this family member?
Great - nice perspective taking.
What is an example of a common conflict in your family? What is a typical response you have? Is there something you would like to do differently in the future?
Your personal answer was great!
What type of activities would be appropriate to play with a 5 year old (*hint: think boundaries mean safe and healthy)
House, watch cartoons, playdough/slime, dance party, Legos
How can you respect another family members values?
Get to know their values, understand why they are important, honor the values through your behaviors.
How can you acknowledge another family members strength?
Thank them, let them know you see their strength, ask them to teach you a new skill, work together on a project, talk with them about the strength.
Why does family matter?
You can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family. Together, you will work on ups and downs, and grow together. They can be your biggest support system.
Role play a conflict as any two family members. Use conflict resolution skills to manage the conflict
Great work - each player gets 500 points.
Role play how siblings can set boundaries together. (ie. alone time, personal space, protecting certain items)
Great job, each player gets 500 points!
Can values change as times goes by? If so, how and why?
Yes, families and people change as they gain new life experience and perspective.
Demonstrate one of your strengths to the group through a role play!
Great role play!
Go find 1 family member and thank them for something they have done for you. Share with the group who and why you thanked this person.
Gratitude is the best attitude! Nice work!