Validation
Validation means you agree with the behavior. True or False
False
True or False: Trust is built in one big moment.
False, (it’s built over time)
Name one sign your body gives when emotions are getting big.
Ex: fast heart, tight chest, clenched fists
“Which set correctly names the CBT triangle?”
A) Thoughts, behaviors, consequences
B) Feelings, rules, actions
C) Thoughts, feelings, actions
Thoughts , Feelings , Actions
What is one communication skill?
Listening, eye contact, calm tone
What does validation mean?
Letting someone know their feelings make sense, even if you disagree.
“Trust grows when I feel _______.”
safe, believed, respected, listened to
Are there such things as ‘bad’ emotions?
If so, why? If not, why?
Emotions themselves are not bad or wrong. All emotions give us important information about what we are experiencing.
Which part of the triangle can we change the fastest?
Actions
When using "I" statements why do we avoid using the word, "you."
Using “you” can make the other person feel blamed or attacked. ‘I’ statements focus on your own feelings and experiences instead of accusing someone else, which makes communication calmer, clearer, and more likely to lead to understand
“If someone is upset and acting out, how can you validate their feelings but still correct their behavior? Give an example.”
Validate feelings: “I can see why you’re frustrated that your phone got taken away—it makes sense to be annoyed.”
Correct behavior: “But yelling and slamming your door isn’t okay. Let’s take a few minutes to calm down and then talk about it.”
Name one step of repair after a mistake.
Taking responsibility
Acknowledging the impact
Apologizing
Making it right
Doing things differently next time
What is a regulation skill and show us.
1. Deep Breathing x 4
2. 5 senses
3. Bunny breaths
True or False: Feelings come out of nowhere.
False, Feelings are often influenced by our thoughts.
How do you change this sentence using an "I" statement.
“You never listen to me!”
I feel unheard when I try to talk and don’t get a response.
Which response is more validating?
“You shouldn’t feel that way.”
“I can see why that felt really frustrating.”
“I can see why that felt really frustrating
“What does ‘attachment’ mean in relationships?”
Attachment is the emotional bond we have with someone who keeps us safe, cared for, and connected.
What is shutting down?
What can I do if I am shutting down?
This defense mechanism occurs when someone withdraws emotionally or mentally from a situation to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
1. name the emotion
2. TIPPS ( cold water)
3. movement
If you change one part of the triangle, what happens to the others?
it can influence the other parts. For example, changing a thought can change how you feel and what you do; changing an action can change your feelings and thoughts.
True or False: Reflective listening means giving advice right away.
False, It’s about understanding and reflecting, not fixing immediately.
Give a validating response to this statement:
“I feel like no one listens to me.”
“It sounds really lonely to feel unheard.”
Give an example of healthy, unhealthy & abusive in a relationship?
Communicating,
not communicating,
communicating in harmful way
What are vulnerability factors? How do they affect us? One example.
Vulnerability factors are things about a person, situation, or environment that make it easier to feel stressed, upset, or at risk for problems. They don’t make problems certain, they just increase the likelihood that stress or challenges will affect us.
Give a recent example, of a thought, one feeling, and one action from your own life.
Client response
Communication is about what?
Clearly expressing your feelings and needs, and listening to others respectfully.