Family Therapy "Jeopardy"

Misc.

100

#1: Jimmy slammed the bathroom door because his dad yelled at him for leaving water all over the bathroom floor. Who caused Jimmy to slam the bathroom door?

#2: Who caused Jimmy's dad to yell?

#1: Jimmy

#2: Jimmy's dad

200

Your family's goal for therapy

During times of conflict, stress, or tension, increase frequency with which family members can respond to each other productively, patiently, and supportively.

300

The term for expressing the sentiment that one's viewpoint makes sense and is valid.

Validation 

400

In a conflict between two people, the offender can either be "right," e.g. hold onto their viewpoint despite what the other says, or, the offender can:

Understand, as best they can

500

When you feel the urge to become defensive during conflict, it is better to try to be ________ instead:

Curious

Coping skills/Active listening/Misc.

100

Name 2-3 coping skills that have worked for you when you were feeling stressed/upset:

Any skills named will be accepted here

200

At their core, coping skills increase our awareness using our:

What are our five senses?

300

Three-four signs someone is actively listening to you:

Nodding their head, maintaining eye contact, verbalizing "mhm" or "uh-huh", leaning forward slightly, free from other distractions 

400

True/false: We have to agree with one someone else is saying in order to validate them.

False

500

Name a love language, or, if you can, name all five love languages:

Acts of service

Quality time

Gift giving

Physical touch

Words of affirmation

Primary vs Secondary Emotions/Misc.

100

These are the more vulnerable emotions we do not like to feel

Primary emotions

200

These are emotions that make us feel in control, but can affect someone else negatively if felt too extremely

Secondary emotions

300

These are three examples of primary emotions, and three examples of secondary emotions

Primary: sad, worried, fearful, regretful, lonely, ashamed, embarrassed

Secondary: Angry, annoyed, enraged, frustrated, impatient, controlling

400

Name one positive thing you learned about yourself during your time in therapy that you either did not know before, or that became clearer to you during your time here:

Any answer is acceptable 

500

Name one positive thing you learned about your family during your time in therapy that you either did not know before, or that became clearer to you during your time here:

Any answer accepted here

Speaker Listener/"I" Statements

100

What the listener should do while the speaker is talking:

Refrain from interrupting, show they are actively listening, give undivided attention to the listener 

200

This is what the listener reflects back to the speaker after the speaker has finished talking:

Speaker's emotion, paraphrase speaker's message

300

Turn this into an "I" statement:

"You never hear what I'm trying to say and it makes me so angry".

"I feel angry when you don't listen to me".

400

What both parties need to do after speaker-listener exercise has been employed, if there is a problem to solve that cannot be accomplished by only understanding and validating:

Compromise 

500

This is what it's important to try to assume when a family member inadvertently hurts you:

What is Positive intent

Support

100

This is what E needs to feel supported by family members:

Space and Quiet

200

This is what A needs to feel supported by family members:

Calm (words and tone of voice)

300

This is what G needs to feel supported by family members:

Chill space, chill words and tone of voice

400

This is what J needs to feel supported by family members:

Space and quiet

500

This is what P needs to feel supported by family members:

Cooperation