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Saying "I can't cook -- you're so much better at it." After being asked to make dinner.
What is weaponized incompetence? (Using Feigned inability to avoid responsibility)
Noticing someone is struggling and feeling moved to help - not just feel sorry.
What is compassion -- the urge to alleviate (ease) suffering?
Putting dishes away in the dishwasher right after eating
What is taking personal responsibility?
Imaging how someone feels when they share good news or bad news?
What is Empathy?
This bird can navigate home across unfamiliar terrain using a 'map and compass' system -- sense of smell, sun position, magnetic fields, landmarks, and infrasound -- and can fly up to 700 miles at speeds approaching 92 mph (148km/h)
What is a homing pigeon?
Loads the dishwasher incorrectly, then complains it's too confusing so they never have to do it again.
What is strategic incompetence? Doing a task poorly on purpose so someone else takes over?
You see a toddler needing care, so you interrupt your activity to take the time and help.
What is compassionate action -- when empathy turns into tangible help?
Deciding when and how to do a job without being asked?
What is self-directed task completion?
Echoing someones words to show you really heard them?
What is Active Listening?
These birds can journey 3000 miles during migration, such as from Iowa to Alaska.
What is a Robin?
"I'm just bad at laundry" yet never takes the steps to learn , and expects others to pick up the slack.
A busy caregiver regulary reflects: "How did my stress affect my response?"
What is mindful compassionate lving -- learning from mistakes and cultivating consistent care?
You notice a spill you made in the kitchen and grab a towel before someone else sees it?
What is proactive autonomy in action?
Pausing the show when someone needs to vent about something?
What is emotional responsiveness?
World's smallest bird and builds a nest the size of a quarter.
What is a Bee Hummingbird?
What is mental load shifting through weaponized incompetence -- offloading tasks by feigning failure?
Noticing someone who is overworked and looking drained, so you surprise them by making their favorite snack or offering a shoulder rub?
What is compassionate care -- doing someting thoughtful to ease someone's burden?
Keeping a chore chart and consistently marking off your tasks each week.
What is accountability through routines and tracking?
Saying "that sounds rough" instead of "at least.."
What is validating feelings?
This bird can swim underwater to escape predators
What is a House Sparrow?
You volunteer to help move a friends couch. They grunt "I probably need help."Then you show up to see they haven't moved anything, and they ask you to lift the whole thing while they casually scroll on their phone.
What is faking incapacity to dodge contribution and dump responsibilites on others?
Instead of noticing a primary caregiver is doing an important task and needs help on changing a diaper, you call primary caregiver to take care of diaper, gag, mask, and stick toddler in luke-warm shower while toddler cries and you and others laugh.
What is lack of compassionate responsiveness -- ignoring suffering and causing harm?
Choosing to do a job/task even when no one is looking, because it matters to you.
What is intrinsic motivation?
Caring enough to ask "how can I help?" after someone shares something hard.
What is compassionate responding - empathy + action
This bird has a dedicated pair of parents (mom & dad) where dad builds many nests in hopes to win female approval to lay his eggs, and when he does, both mom and dad care for eggs/hatchlings from dawn to dusk every 20 minutes feeding and supplying warmth/care.
What is a House Wren?