Words
What are you showing if you are giving a true representation of yourself?
Reality
When talking to someone you should always:
Make eye contact
At times you will need to adjust your vioce, what does a low tone of voice suggest?
Shyness, privacy, hesitancy, lack of courage to speak, hearing problems
How would you interpret this- a person appears friendly and touchy almost flirty. What message are you getting out of it?
Are they interested in becoming more than a friend?
Could they just be an affectionate person/
Could they be confused about boundaries?
Could they be nervous causing them to do the opposite?
What is the test of a ture friend?
When the relationship doesn't change when others come around
What are you showing if you are trying to present yourself to be someone you are not?
This is a type of fantasy
Some people find it hard to look at eyes what else could you do to show you are listening?
Find another spot on thier face like their forehead to look at
What does a meduim tone of voice suggest?
It is used in regular conversation and the one tone people are most comfortable with
When does these mixed messages occur?
It happens when body language , eye contact, words, gestures, expressions, and tone of voice do not match
Is this a true friend- your relationship changes according to the people around you.
No
How should our words be used?
Where its intended meaning, tone, and body language agree
Why are emotional expressions neccessary in speaking?
To make clear messages to show genuiness and to develop trust
What does a high tone of voice suggest?
Enviromental noise is too loud and your just trying to be heard, also excitement, anger, fear
Is this a mixed message: Thier body appears stiff and uneasy while talking
Yes
Is this fantasy or reality- They are affectionate with everyone, they haven't asked you out on a date, they haven't given you thier phone number yet
Fantasy- you are hoping
What some type of words we need to avoid?
Clinches[ over used words, ex. time heals all wounds], empty words, slang, swear words
What are gestures?
Gestures and done with our handsto enforce the emotions we feel when talking to someone
75% of communication is through body language and gestures
What should we always keep in mind when it comes to tone of voice?
Keep calm and check your tone of voice in situations you do not want to come across the wrong way
Is this a mixed message- Flirting when married or already has a boyfriend
Yes
Is this fantasy or reality- thier body language, words and tone, eye contact, expressions and gesture, tone of voice all match up to what you are thinking.
Reality
When we use our words ,for helping other's understand they need to be:
Clear and direct
Give some ex. of body language and gestures.
Stamping your foot, pointing, standing with arms crossed
Which tone of voice do you use the most?
Personal answer
Is this a mixed message-person is looking everywhere else when talking to you
Yes
I need to keep my feelings to myself when:
It's not the right time or place, or audience, or it may hurt someone's feelings, or get me in trouble