F in F.A.S.T.
What does the F in F.A.S.T. stand for?
Fair.
Be fair to yourself and to others.
What does the A in F.A.S.T. remind us to avoid?
Unnecessary or excessive apologies.
What does the S in F.A.S.T. stand for?
Stick to your values.
What does the T in F.A.S.T. stand for?
Truthful
A friend asks you to go out, but you're exhausted and need rest. What could you say to maintain your boundary?
"Thanks for inviting me, but I'm going to stay home and rest tonight."
TRUE OR FALSE: Being fair means considering both your own feelings and the feelings of others.
True.
True or False You should apologize anytime someone becomes upset with you.
False.
True or False Your personal values should always change depending on what other people expect from you.
False.
True or False: Being truthful means communicating honestly without exaggerating or making up excuses.
True
True or False: If someone says, "If you really cared about me, you would do this," you must agree to prove that you care.
False
True or False If someone becomes upset when you set a boundary, it automatically means you are being unfair.
False. Someone can feel disappointed even when your boundary is reasonable.
True or False: Saying "I'm sorry" repeatedly to prevent someone from being disappointed can be a form of people-pleasing.
True
Name two personal values that can influence how you communicate with others.
Honesty, respect, compassion, kindness, responsibility, or integrity.
True or False: It is better to invent an excuse than to tell someone you need time to yourself.
False
Your boss asks you to take on additional work when you're already overwhelmed. Give an assertive response.
"I'm currently at capacity. Can we discuss what should take priority?"
Name one way you can be fair to yourself during a disagreement.
Acknowledge your feelings, communicate your needs, or consider your perspective equally.
TRUE OR FALSE: validating their feelings and apologizing are totally different actions.
TRUE: Validation acknowledges another person's feelings. Apologizing accepts responsibility for wrongdoing. You can validate someone's disappointment without apologizing for having a legitimate boundary.
True or False: You can feel guilty about a decision and still be acting in alignment with your values.
True
Instead of saying "I'm busy" when you simply don't want to attend an event, what is one truthful response you could give?
"Thank you for inviting me, but I'm going to pass this time."
A friend makes a hurtful comment and tells you that you're being too sensitive. How could you respond using F.A.S.T.?
"I understand you may not have intended to hurt me, but your comment did hurt my feelings, and I'd like you to respect that."
True or False: You can understand someone's perspective without agreeing with them or changing your decision.
True.
Give one example of something you do not need to apologize for.
Having an opinion, setting a reasonable boundary, expressing a feeling, or needing personal space.
What is one way fear of rejection can cause someone to compromise their personal values?
Agreeing to something they are uncomfortable with, hiding their opinions, or ignoring their own needs to gain acceptance.
True or False: Being truthful means you must share every personal detail about yourself, even when you feel uncomfortable or unsafe.
False. You can be honest while maintaining privacy and safety.
Someone continues pressuring you after you've already said no multiple times. What is a respectful but firm response?
"I understand this is important to you, but I've made my decision, and I'm not going to continue discussing it."