Lessons 1&2
What is the definition of honor?
Treating others as special, doing more than expected, and doing with good attitude.
When someone is whining and complaining, they are not a __________ solver?
problem
A _______ finds pleasure in evil conduct, but a man of
understanding delights in wisdoms (Proverbs 10:23)
A _______ shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man
overlooks an insult (Proverbs 12:16) L10
fool
In order to have cooperation in the family, you must view each other as a _______? L13
Angry people are U_______ people.
ANGER IS GOOD- FOR ______________ PROBLEMS BUT NOT GOOD FOR SOLVING THEM. L 8
Unhappy
Identifying
If a childs follows what their parents told them, that’s __________. If a child comes up with something on their own to add to it, then that’s __________.
Obedience
Honor
What are the two choices you can make when you don’t feel like obeying?
Walk Calmly Away, and do what your parents ask later.
The Wise Appeal, Ask Now and Obey Later
Obey First, Ask Later, and the Wise Appeal
Negotiate Now and Obey First
M_____________ is an example of foolishness.3 L10
Meaness
If you want to be great, learn to be a _________ of all. Matt 10:43 L9
servant
How do we stop anger? L8
Identify the cues, accelerate, and choose the opposite response
Identify the cues, stop and choose and a better response
Identify cues, stop, and choose a malicious response.
Identify the cues, stop and choose and a better response
To Add to Family life when doing chores, an example of doing more than expected is
Doing your chores with an okay attitude
Taking a honor look.
Doing your chores on time.
Doing your chores later so when you feel like it, you’ll do a better job.
2
What is the 3 Part Formula of the Wise Appeal?
I understand you want me to because...
I have a problem with that because
So could I please...
Foolishness is not recognizing c___________ of present actions. L10
Which one of these options is not a solution in being a servant? L9
Listen More
I Cut, You Pick Rule
Consider Others Before You
Tattle-telling
4 tattle telling
What are the 4 stages of Anger?
Frustration, Anger, Rage, and Bitterness
Bad attitude often comes from a ________ heart?
angry
Scott Turansky states there are two types of people in the world? Fill in the Blanks L3
There are 2 types of people in the world: _________ and ________.
_________ focus on the problem while ________ focus on the solution.
Whiners and Problem Solvers
Whining , Solvers
What is the definition of firmness? L5
Firmness is establishing leniency so a child will trust their parents they love them.
Firmness is putting emotional intensity to convince other person you are serious.
Firmness establishing a boundary that can’t be crossed without experiencing a consequence.
Firmness establishing a boundary that can’t be crossed without experiencing a consequence.
Why is tattling a problem and how is it different from reporting?
You want to get person in trouble, not being a servant and not help them solve the problem.
How do we prevent anger turning into bitterness? What biblical solution does God give us?
To keep it inside so that we do not hurt the other party
To talk about and vent to others, so we can release our anger safely
To not let the sun go down without resolving with the other party
To be mad, but do not hurt and do not reach out to the other person.
3 Do not let the sun go down
What could a motivation so that you can do more than expected?
To receive praise from your peers
To receive a rewards and prizes, even though you don’t expect it.
To receive God’s reward in secret.
3
Which statement is true in answering the question: Which is better honor or respect, and why?
Honor because it makes the person have a healthy fear of another’s position.
Honor requires one to value someone as a person, not just their position.
Respect because respect sees the other person is valuable and has stronger relational bond.
Respect because respect creates a healthy fear of person’s position.
2
Honor requires one to value someone as a person, not just their position.
Which statement is true about firmness vs.harshness? L5
a)Firmness builds emotional walls between between parent and child.
b)Harshness brings positive consequences because it is result oriented.
c)Harshness builds emotional walls and creates distance, while firmness helps children become who they need to be.
c Harshness builds emotional walls and creates distance, while firmness helps children become who they need to be.
What is a Network Factor? And why is it important?
DIFFERENT WAYS WE RELATE TO ONE ANOTHER
Can show relational patterns we have with one another, reveal strength and weaknesses, and help build Honor Bonds
Ultimately the solution to anger is be a P_____________.
Hint: Matthew 5:9 Blessed are the ________ for they shall be called Sons of God
Peacemaker