Using Friends & Associates
Continued association with old friends or friends who use.
What is a trigger for use?
It is important for people in recovery to learn new ways to manage anger. It must never be allowed to fester until it derails the individual.
Anger management classes, meditation & prayer, copings strategies, assertiveness training, looking for the real cause...
What is dealing with anger in recovery?
Ask others if they would refrain from drinking and using at home for a while.
What is assertive communication, request or setting a boundary?
The state of being weary and restless through lack of interest
What is the definition of Boredom?
Regardless of how difficult things seem, volunteering your time during the holidays can quickly remind you of how lucky you are. Share your gratitude by being of service. Put together gift or food packages for families in need or the troops that serve our country. Volunteer at a local food bank, serve meals at a homeless shelter, or visit a nursing home and help with the holiday activities. In most communities, there are many opportunities to be of service to others.
What is spending time to help others?
What are small acts of kindness?
What is a Appraisal-Focused coping mechanism?
A 2015 study published in the Clinical Psychological Science journal found that helping others can relieve stress. You don't need to be wealthy or have tons of free time to give (and receive) the benefits of altruism. Even a small gesture like holding the door for a stranger has the potential to reduce stress.
-Your friends’ acceptance of substance use is linked to negative sobriety outcomes, and/or their support for your abstinence is linked to positive sobriety outcomes.
-Your supportive network’s attitude toward substance use and recovery
What is impact on the likelihood of future substance use?
-This emotion of anger may build up over a period of time until the individual explodes.
-They are unable to think rationally, and this puts them at real risk of return to substance abuse.
-The individual may decide that they no longer care about their recovery, or that they want to punish other people.
What is Anger Can Trigger Relapse?
-Anger is one of the most frequently used excuses for why people relapse after a period of sobriety
-Anger is one of the steps in the relapse process. The individual
Our values and needs become blurred and enmeshed in codependency; we don’t know where we end and the other person begins.
It's important to remember that when we set personal boundaries, we are only making rules for ourselves—which gives others the power to decide how they want to interact with us. Our loved ones are free to set their own boundaries, which provides opportunities to negotiate relationship parameters based on one another's values and needs.
What is self-focused versus codependency?
In codependency, we focus on how someone else can meet our needs rather than focusing on how to take care of ourselves. It's important to understand that being "self-focused" is not about being selfish. It's about self-care.
Distressing experience that occurs when a person's social relationships are perceived by that person to be less in quantity, and especially in quality, than desired.
What is the psychological definition of loneliness?
People get time off of work, travel to see their families, spend time preparing for the holidays, and other disruptions during the holiday season.
What is Changes to Your Routine?
ALLOW THE FRIENDSHIP TO RUN ITS COURSE
AVOID HOSTILITY
BE HONEST AND DIRECT
How can I End a Friendship?
What are ways people can cope with anger in positive healthy ways?
If you continue to have a problem (triggered or cravings, others not respecting your boundaries, consider moving out for a while.
What is making myself and my recovery a priority?
You’re feeling distressed because of how you think about boredom, or spotting faulty beliefs and challenging them can help you feel less bored or at least less bothered by boredom. You can cope with boredom and the distress caused by boredom using the same techniques you would use to cope with other challenging emotions like anger or anxiety.
What is examining my thinking about Boredom?
What approaching boredom with CBT?
Boredom is not fundamentally different from any other challenging emotion. It’s typically some mix of restlessness, dissatisfaction, and lethargy. You can cope with boredom and the distress caused by boredom using the same techniques you would use to cope with other challenging emotions like anger or anxiety.
-Have a Pre-Planned Response for questions about what you are not drinking/using
-Have your own transportation to and from events
-Leave if you are uncomfortable or feeling deprived
-Bring your own NA drinks/beverages
What are strategies prepared in advance?
Sometimes you won’t have the option to steer clear of friends or family members who put your sobriety at risk so you can....
Bring along a friend who supports your recovery, plan a sober activity that allows you to have fun without drugs or alcohol, set a time limit, you can meet in public rather than at someone’s home or another location where substance use is more likely to occur
What is control the setting?
The individual who is passive aggressive may appear outwardly calm and friendly. Inside such people there can be a lot of anger that just isn’t being expressed openly.
-Manipulation, Dispassion, Sulking, secretive behavior, Deliberately failing, self blame,
What is Passive Anger?
Getting rid of all alcohol and other drugs, if
possible.
What is a new alternative?
What is reducing risk for recurrence of use?
By volunteering, finding support groups, aftercare, clubs or classes, social media, community events and engaging in various sober activities.
How to meet new people in recovery?
Always keep your morals, values, and goals for sobriety at the forefront of your mind and look for them in others.
By taking good care of yourself during the holiday season, you will feel better physically and stronger emotionally. Make sure to get plenty of sleep, eat healthfully, and spend some time doing the things you enjoy. Take time to connect with loved ones, visit your favorite quiet place, and relax.
What is self care or taking good care of yourself?
This is the friend, lover, or even family member that only seemed to come by when there was a “good time” to be had. For a while the relationship was mutually beneficial; you fed off of each other’s energy, supply of drugs and alcohol, and codependency.
What is the Relationship Was primarily Based On Getting Drunk Or High Together?
Anger can have either rational or irrational causes.
An individual may have unrealistic expectations. People sometimes misinterpret what is going on in the mind of another individual. Anger can arise if there is any sense that another person might be a threat.
What Causes Anger?
Even after you or your partner enters recovery, your life and your relationship will never return to what it was before. That happens no matter what serious illness a couple faces, whether it’s cancer, a heart attack or an addiction. Accept that your relationship is on a new footing, and learn what this means as you both embark on your and/or partner’s program of recovery.
What is expect things to return to what they were?
If you’re frequently bored, you may not have enough to do. See if there’s something you can add to your schedule to keep you a little more busy--a 12-Step meeting, a standing coffee date, a workout, an art class, whatever. The trick is to structure your days so that you have enough to do that you’re not bored but not so much to do that you feel stressed and overwhelmed.
What is rearranging your schedule?
Common Holiday Triggers
(Name at least 3)
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