SAY IT, SAVE IT, OR SWITCH IT
You notice your friend has a new backpack and you love it.
SAY IT — “I love your backpack!”
“Give me that!”
“Can I have a turn when you're finished?”
Telling someone, “You have something in your teeth,” quietly.
YES — it can help them.
Your friend gets new sneakers. You don't like them. What should you do?
Keep that opinion in your brain unless there is a helpful reason to share it.
Someone bumps into you accidentally.
“That's okay.”
You think the lunch someone brought smells gross.
SAVE IT.
“You're doing it wrong!”
“Do you want some help?”
Telling someone, “I hate your haircut.”
NO.
Your friend asks, “Do you like my drawing?” You don't really like it. What could you say?
“I like the colors you used.” / Find something truthful and kind.
Someone cuts in front of you in line.
“Excuse me, I think I was next.”
Someone is standing in your way and you think, “MOVE!”
SWITCH IT — “Excuse me, can I get by?”
“That's a stupid idea.”
“I have another idea. Can I tell you?”
Saying, “Please stop. I don't like that,” when someone is bothering you.
Yes.
Your friend wants to play a game you don't like. What could you say?
“Can we pick something we both like?”
Your teacher asks you to do something you were already about to do. Your brain says, “I KNOW!”
“Okay.”
Your friend is telling you a story you have already heard three times. You want to say, “I KNOW! You already told me!”
SAVE IT or SWITCH IT — “I remember that story!”
“You're taking FOREVER!”
“Are you almost finished?”
Correcting your friend every time she makes a tiny mistake.
EVERYTIME- no.
Your friend is talking and you really want to tell your story. What should you do first?
Pause and let her finish.
Someone tells you something that you know is wrong.
Possible answer: “I thought it was ___.”
Or sometimes: say nothing.
Your friend does something that hurts your feelings. You want to tell her.
SAY IT — but use respectful words: “That hurt my feelings.”
“I don't want you here.”
“I want to have some time by myself right now.”
Telling a teacher privately that another student is doing something unsafe.
Yes.
Your friend says, “I don't like Taylor Swift.” You LOVE Taylor Swift. What do you do?
“That's okay. We like different things.”
Your friend keeps interrupting while you're talking.
Can I finish what I was saying, please?”