Definitions
What is Resiliency?
Resiliency is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress. [American Psychological Association (2014)]
What c is this:
Creating more opportunities for choice and autonomy throughout the day can give students a greater sense of control over their lives. Developing the previous 6 “Cs” cultivates their sense of control. When students understand what they can control, it alleviates feelings of helplessness in challenging times and builds their resiliency
Control
What c is this?
When one person helps another person to regulate
Coregulation
True or False:
resilience is fixed
False:
Resilience can be cultivated and grown
What is one way to repair a relationship discussed today?
- Apologize for the action, NOT the feeling (all feelings are OK, but the way we act might not be)
- Explain how you were feeling (I statements only)
- Reassure that it is not their job to “fix” how you feel
- Share what you will do differently next time
- Reinforce that you care for them
What is stress?
the body's automatic physical or emotional response to actual or perceived challenges.
Name two adaptive coping skills?
Emotional Regulation
Problem-Solving
Flexible thinking
Mindfulness techniques
Seeking help
Self-Soothing and/or Coregulation
What c is this?
Find evidence of their greatness Connect to a character trait
Character
True or False
“Resilience is the ability to bounce back"
True
What are two withdrawals from the body budget discussed today?
o Not getting enough sleep o Forgetting to eat o Not taking breaks
o Loud noises o Supporting regulation in others
o Spending time in crowded places o Traveling o Problem-solving
o Commuting o Emotions o Work o Stress
What is Coregulation?
When one person helps another person to regulate
What are three types of maladaptive coping behaviors discussed today?
- Aggression - Social Withdrawal - Avoidance Procrastination
- Self-Harm - Denial - Substance Abuse - Disordered Eating
- Self-Criticism/Blame - Escape - Opposition
What c is this:
Giving students opportunities to contribute helps garner a sense of purpose, foster self-worth, and feel appreciated, all of which can empower you to grow in resilience. This might look like: ▪ Classroom jobs ▪ School service projects ▪ Student-led initiatives ▪ Encouraging students to voice their opinions
Contribution
True or False:
Research has shown that “rupture and repair” is necessary in building resilience
True
What are 2 deposits of the body budget discussed today?
- Quality Sleep -Eating regular meals - Taking a walk
- Splashing water on face - Drinking water - Belly breaths
- Talking to a friend - Hugging a loved one - Reading -Listening to music
- Moving your body - Receiving help and support
What is the body budget?
The brain’s way of tracking resources (water, salt, glucose, energy); tries to predict needs (subconsciously) before they arise
Important to make deposits to balance out the withdrawals happening every day
What are two reasons discussed today to focus on our own regulation?
- Builds our capacity to support others
- Our calm state builds trust and safety with our students
- Modeling is a powerful way to teach
- Maintaining regulation crucial for supporting students
▪ Allows us to RESPOND vs. REACT
What c is this?
Provide plenty of opportunities for kids to learn and demonstrate new skills Help them recognize their strengths Celebrate their Successes!
Building competence
True or False:
Children’s nervous systems and brains are still developing until late 30’s.
False:
Children’s nervous systems and brains are still developing until late 20’s.
What is the role of an adult in child resilience
To be the safe space for children to learn how to navigate challenges and regulate their bodies and emotions
What is loss of agency?
Loss of agency in therapy refers to a client's diminished sense of control over their actions, thoughts, and life.
What does it mean to reframe behavior?
- Ask, "What are they trying to communicate?
- What need are they trying to have met?"
- Connect with students on an emotional level
- Deposit into their "Body Budget"
What are the 7 C's
Coping, connection, character, competence, contribution, control, confidence.
True or False:
Adaptive coping skills are skills or behaviors used to avoid feeling or confronting problems, emotions, or situations. May provide temporary relief, but does not resolve the issue
False:
Maladaptive coping behaviors are skills or behaviors used to avoid feeling or confronting problems, emotions, or situations. May provide temporary relief, but does not resolve the issue
What is the importance of repairing the relationship?
- We are HUMAN—we will have (many) challenging moments
- The act of repair MODELS for our children how to do it themselves
- Reassures them that it’s OK if they mess up
- Research has shown that “rupture and repair” is necessary in building resilience