Positive Self Talk
What are 2 positive self-talk phrases you can tell yourself, next time you’re feeling down?
I can do this, I am smart, I work really hard, I'm a good person, I'm trying my best, etc.
Why should we include others?
So they feel good, so we are being nice, so everyone feels like they are a part of the group and feels good about themselves, because we like when we're included, etc.
What is empathy?
Thinking about how other people feel/think, putting yourself in someone else's shoes, caring about other people's situation/perspective.
A classmate talks about how they're having a party this weekend but hasn't invited you. What could you say/do?
Ask them to talk about it another time, use positive self talk to make yourself feel better, talk to someone else instead, etc.
It is ok to agree with a friend if they are talking bad about someone-as long as you don't say anything.
False.
How can we change this negative talk into something more positive?
I really blew it during my presentation today... Everyone must think I’m so dumb.
I worked hard on my presentation today. I did my best and my classmates and teachers will be proud of me, etc.
What can you say to invite someone to sit with you at lunch or hangout at rec/choice time with you?
Hey, do you want to join us? Do you want to sit here too? Do you want to hangout with us?
Why is it important to show our friends that we understand and care about their feelings?
So they feel understood and cared about, so we make them feel good, so we are a good friend and they will do the same for us.
A friend walks up to you and laughs at your haircut. What could you say?
Stand up for yourself and ask them to stop, tell them that's nice, tell a teacher or adult if they don't stop.
Ellie told Chloe that she doesn't like Sarah. Chloe is friends with Sarah so she went and told Sarah what Ellie said about her. This is ok because Chloe and Sarah are friends and Chloe was telling the truth.
False.
If someone is excluding you and you feel left out, how can you use positive self talk to help yourself feel better?
Thinking/saying "I know people like me", "I'm a good friend", or something similar that's positive.
Have you ever been left out? How does that feel?
It probably feels really sad or upsetting. You may feel lonely, disappointed, or upset.
Why is it important to show empathy to someone even if you are not their friend?
So that we are kind, think about their feelings/thoughts, make them feel good, etc.
What should you do if you hear a classmate teasing someone else.
Stand up for the person being teased by telling the classmate to stop, saying something nice to the person being teased, or including them in whatever you're doing so they feel better.
Jake told Ari that he is mad at Sam. Ari told Jake he should go talk to Sam. Did Ari do the right thing or should he have listened to Jake complain more?
Ari did the right thing.
Being successful gives our self-esteem a boost. List 3 areas that you feel confident in.
Answers vary.
You make best friend bracelets and give them out to three of the four people you sit with.
Does this include everyone or leave someone out? What should we do if it doesn't include everyone?
This leaves someone out. You could make bracelets for everyone you sit with, don't call them best friend bracelets, or give them another time so other people don't feel left out.
How can we show empathy to someone who does not have a partner/team in class?
Ask them to join your team, ask them if they want to be partners, ask your teacher if you can have an extra person on your team so they're included, etc.
What should you do if your words make someone else cry and that wasn't your intention?
Apologize and explain that you didn't mean to make them upset, give them space/time if they aren't ready to accept your apology, etc.
Being a good friend means you don't leave them out.
True
To improve our self-esteem we change our self-talk from negative to positive using what strategy?
A. Thinking positive, B. Identifying emotions, C. Having a closed mind
A. Thinking positive
You say, “Join us, we’ll be a group of three,” when you notice one person doesn’t have a group.
Does this include everyone or leave someone out? What should we do if it doesn't include everyone?
Yes, you noticed one person would be left out so you did a good job of including them.
How can you show empathy to someone if you see them crying at rec time?
Ask them if they're okay/what's wrong, ask them if they want to join you with whatever you're doing, talk to them and show support.
Do people have to accept your apology if you say you're sorry for upsetting them?
No, people may need space or time to think about it and decide if they want to accept your apology. You should apologize and them give them time to decide and be kind and patient in the meantime.
Your friend wants to talk to you about something you did that made them upset. You run away and say you won't talk about it. Is this being a good friend?
No