What's That You Say?
Someone wants to sit next to you at lunch, but you don't want them to.
Yes, you can come play with us. (Self-talk: I might feel annoyed by them sometimes, but it's important to be kind).
Your friends are talking about a sleepover they had this weekend. Thinking about this makes your stomach upset and you feel really left out. You're considering being unkind to them for hurting your feelings. Use self-talk...
Self-talk: It's okay that my friends do things without me, because I do things without my friends. I understand not everyone can have a bunch of people sleepover at once. Maybe I can ask my parents about having a sleepover with a friend soon.
Mimicking someone
Unkind
You aren't getting along well with a classmate and she got a new haircut. You are considering telling her it looks bad.
Someone walks by your desk and you aren't getting along well with them. You are considering eye-rolling to express your dislike.
Do not eye-roll as this is unkind behavior. Smile, and continue focusing on your work/teacher.
Two of your friends won't talk to you at recess. They ignore you when you try to talk to them.
Walk-away from people who are being unkind. Find a new friend to play with. You can say something like "I'm not sure you why you aren't talking to me, but it's hurting my feelings. If there is a problem, I'd like to work through it"
Someone is trying to talk to your friend while you are having a conversation with them. You are feeling annoyed. Your response to this classmate is:
Can you hold on one second please while I finish telling ___ something.
Keep an open body posture, since this is a welcoming way to show we are kind. Politely ask classmate if they could give you one more minute to finish your conversation, OR - allow them to chime in.
You and a friend made an agreement to only play together at recess. At recess, this friend decides to run off and play with someone else. You feel hurt and mad that they didn't follow the agreement. Self talk...
It's okay, this is recess time and we should be open to playing with other people. Maybe they forgot about the agreement, or maybe they just wanted to do something different. I can do something different, too.
Whispering to a friend while other people are near you
Unkind
Someone tells you to make fun of a student in class because they think they're weird. You may feel they act weird sometimes, too. You are considering.
Tell that person that making fun of people is wrong and hurtful. Remind that person to be nice.
You are in a fight with a friend. You are staring at him from across the room and are trying to get him to look at you so you can make a face towards him.
Self-correct. Making faces at people is unkind and can cause more problems. If you are in a fight, think about how you can solve this by being kind.
Your friend is arguing with you in class. You are getting really fed back. An appropriate response would be...
I would really like to stop arguing and focus. Let's have this conversation another time.
Smiling at someone who walks by you
Kind
Someone is trying to tell you a secret in the hallway. They put their hand up to whisper something to you.
I don't think we should whisper, since other people may think it is unkind. Is everything okay? Can you tell me without whispering? Maybe you could talk to _____ (teacher).
Stay where you are, allow this peer to talk with your friend. If you decide to join in the conversation, position yourself so that you are not in the middle of two people talking. Arms should be at your sides to show an open posture.
Someone is passing out birthday invites in the hallway from your class, and you didn't get one. You feel this is rude and you should say something mean to them because you feel they were mean to you. Instead, you...
If being around something is upsetting you, walk away from it. Understand that we aren't going to be invited to everything by everyone, and remind yourself that you are wonderful and you have good friends.
Making a mean face at someone (eye-rolling, sticking out tongue, etc).
Unkind