Joking
Fun vs Mean
Fun vs Mean
True or False: If your friend laughs at a joke you tell, it is always okay to make the same joke again even if someone else doesn't like it.
False - One person might find the joke funny, while the other person could be offended.
True or False: Playful touching should stop if someone asks you to stop.
True - stopping and respecting another students personal boundary is important in a friendship.
True or False: Best friends must only spend time with each other and no one else.
False - It's okay to have multiple friends and spend time with different people.
True - A good friend accepts you for who you are and is okay with you making your own choices.
True or False: Talking about fun things or making each other laugh is positive chit-chat.
True
Role Play - New Hairstyle
A student makes a joke about your new hairstyle asking "Did you stick your finger in an electric socket or something." Everyone around you was laughing, you didn't find it funny.
Ask them to stop, talk to them how the joke made you feel.
Playful or Hurtful Touching: Two friends give each other a quick high-five after scoring a goal in a game and both are smiling.
Playful - both friends are smiling during the high five.
Which action shows togetherness?
A. Letting a new student join your game
B. Telling someone they can't sit with you
C. Ignoring someone who asks to play
A - Letting a new student join your game.
Your friend wants you to do a game you don't like. What is the best choice?
A. Do it even if you don't want to
B. Say politely, "I'd rather do something else"
C. Ignore them and storm off
B - Respecting your own boundaries is healthy
Your friend tells you, "I heard _________ said something mean about you." What should you do?
A. Tell everyone the rumor too.
B. Ask __________ directly and don't spread it.
C. Ignore it and make up a rumor back.
How do you know if a joke is funny?
Everyone is laughing, no one looks sad, upset, or embarrassed, it doesn't make fun of someone's looks, mistakes, or feelings.
What does hurtful touching look like?
Pushing/Shoving, Hitting, Grabbing someone too hard, Poking/Tickling, Rough Play
You hear a rumor about your friend. What should you do?
A. Spread it
B. Ask your friend if it's true
C. Make it bigger
B - ask your friend if it's true.
What are strategies you can use to set boundaries when a friend is controlling?
Use an "I" statement, Say "no" politely to things that make you uncomfortable, offer alternatives, take a break, stick up for yourself
Ask them not to talk about another person, let's talk about something else, tell them to talk to the person they are upset with.
What would you do if a friend constantly make fun of your interests or hobbies?
Speak up and tell your friend their teasing bothers you. If they don't stop, you may need to reconsider their friendship.
Tell the person to stop, distract the friend that is hitting to help the other person, tell a teacher.
Role-Playing: Pretend a friend says, "Don't invite ______ to our game. I only want it to be us." What could you say?
We can still be friends and include ________ too, It's not nice to exclude others from the game, The more the merrier.
Role-Play: How would you respond if your friend says: "You have to sit with me at lunch or I won't be your friend."
"That is not okay to say", "I can decide who I sit next to at lunch", "A good friend won't make me choose who I need to sit next to"
True or False: Is this peer pressure: A friend says, "Let's trade snacks!" and you agree because you want to.
False - It is not peer pressure if you want to trade something too.
How do you know a line has been crossed in a joke?
1. Someone stops laughing
2. The person asks you to stop
3. The joke is about someone's looks, mistakes, family, or feelings.
4. People start laughing at someone instead of with them.
5. The same joke keeps being repeated
During a game, someone pushes another student "as a joke," and the student falls down and looks upset. What could a bystander do?
Tell a teacher, check and see if the student is okay, tell the person pushing that the joke went too fare.
Your friend wants you to push someone "as a joke" during recess.
A. Do it so they think you're funny
B. Say no and suggest another game
C. Walk away and say nothing
B - Saying no and choosing something safer shows strong decision-making skills.
Role-Play - How would you respond if your friend keeps texting you and demanding replies immediately, saying "Why aren't you answering me? Are you mad at me?
Not answering them right away is okay, I don't appreciate how you are treating me right now
What is peer pressure?
A. When friends try to make you do something you don't want to do.
B. When you and your friends agree to play a game everyone enjoys.
C. When you help a friend because you want to.
D. When you take turns choosing a game.
A - Peer pressure happens when someone tries to influence you to do something you are uncomfortable with.