I-Statements
What do we say instead of "You're mean"?
"I feel sad when you don't play with me."
How do you feel when a friend shares their snack with you?
Happy, proud, or grateful
What is the FIRST thing you should do when you feel yourself getting upset?
Stop and breathe and Take deep breaths
What should you do when a friend is upset?
Listen, comfort them, ask if they need help
Your friend takes your markers and starts using them without asking. What do you say?
"I feel upset when you take my pencil becasue you didn't ask. Next time can you please ask first."
Fill in the blank: "I feel ___ when someone takes my toy without asking because it's special to me."
Frustrated, upset, or angry
What feeling might you have if someone won't let you play?
Sad, left out, or frustrated
Two friends want the same activity at indoor recess. What's ONE way to solve that problem?
Take turns, play together, find another activity, compromise
Is it being a good friend to leave someone out? Why or why not?
No, because it makes them feel sad and left out
Two kids want to go down the slide first. How can they solve it?
Take turns, rock-paper-scissors, or go together
Is this an i-statement? "You always leave me out." and If not, what could you say instead?
No. "I feel left out when I can't play because it seems like you don't want to be my friend. Next time can we play?"
Name TWO feelings you might have during a conflict.
Any two: sad, angry, frustrated, upset, confused
What should you do AFTER you use an i-statement?
Listen to what your friend says / Listen to their feelings
Name THREE ways to show respect to a friend.
Listen, use kind words, share, include them, help them.
Someone calls you a name. How should you respond?
Use an i-statement: "I feel hurt when you call me names because it makes me uncomfortable. I need you to stop."
Create an i-statement about sharing.
"I feel sad when you don't share with me because it hurts my feelings."
If your friend says "I'm sorry," how might that change your feeling? How might it not?
Better, happy, less angry, or ready to be friends again. Not ready to forgive yet, still need space.
Name the 4 steps to solving a problem.
Stop & breathe, use i-statement, listen, solve together (if it can;t be solved between you ask for help)
What does it mean to Include someone? Give me an example of how you could do this!
Let them play, ask them to join, make them feel welcome
Your friend won't listen to you. What do you do?
Use an i-statement, stay calm, ask for help from a teacher
What are the THREE parts of an i-statement?
"I feel", "when" + situation, and "I need"
Describe what "frustrated" feels like in your body.
Tight feeling, want to yell, confused, don't know what to do
You and your friend disagree about the game rules. How do you solve it?
Talk about it, listen to each other, agree on new rules together
If you hurt a friend's feelings by accident, what should you do?
Say "I'm sorry," listen to how they feel, try to make it better
You and your friend both want to help the teacher but it's a job for only one. How do you solve it?
Take turns on different days, or both be leaders together