Relationships
True or False: You CAN have a relationship with a stranger and people you meet online are NOT strangers.
False - Online = stranger = danger
*Don't talk to them; go a different direction; don't take anything from them; don't give them your location/ address; etc.
How do we gain attention appropriately?
Raise a quiet hand; wait until you are called; wait until you get the answer
True or False: A bucket filler uses kind words, follows directions, and makes others feel good, and a bucket dipper uses mean words and calls people out their name.
True
Finish the sentence: I am __________________!
(Give me at least 2)
Amazing; smart; respectful; loveable; helpful; caring; awesome; good; a great person; courageous; fun; friendly; persistent; kind/ nice; the best; creative; important; unique; hardworking; etc.
How might I be feeling/ what might I be doing if I'm in the red zone? yellow zone?
Red zone - mad, overwhelmed, scared, yelling/ screaming, hitting, scratching, cussing, throwing things, not in control of my body, etc.
Yellow zone - anxious, frustrated, worried, nervous, overwhelmed, shut down, silly/ wiggly, excited, etc.
The relationship between a student and staff/ adult should be:
A) personal
B) professional
C) respectful
D) B and C
D)
*While we can all have fun together and talk about our personal lives if we want, the relationship should stay respectful and have boundaries.
How have we learned to greet others?
*Bonus: What's a difference between greeting your friends/ family and greeting an acquaintance or adult?
*Acquaintances/ adults: Eye contact; compliment; say "hello"; maybe shake hands; use person's name
*Friends/ family: hug; say "what's up"; say "hey!" instead of "hello"; special hand shake
A true friend will A) try to convince you to do something you don't want, or B) be sensitive to your wants and needs.
B) Be sensitive to your wants and needs - A true friend should make you feel comfortable when you hang out, not make you feel pressured to do things you aren't sure about.
Things I CAN do - I can ____________________
Work hard; try; follow directions; make good choices; be positive; choose not to react; be kind; be a bucket filler; give; be respectful; listen; etc.
When I'm in the red zone, I need to use my coping skills to get to the green zone. Examples of coping skills include:
A) Calm down hero book
B) Throwing furniture and pencils
C) Using a quiet fidget appropriately
D) All of the above
E) A and C
E) Calm Down Hero book and using a quiet fidget appropriately
Before you can have a relationship with anyone else, who should love you first?
Yourself and family
Compliments
True or False: a great compliment should NOT be about their actions or character and SHOULD BE about what they wear or have.
False - a great compliment should be about their actions or character and not about what they wear or have.
When I fill someone else's bucket, I also fill _______________.
my own
What is something I can't do YET? What do I need to do to get better at it?
Drive; vote; swim; cook; back flips
True or False: "Mindfulness is a state of active, open attention to the present. This state is described as observing one’s thoughts and feelings without judging them as good or bad.”
Hint: Usually when there are " " around a sentence, it's a fact taken from somewhere. Fact = true.
True - noticing how you're feeling and what you're thinking without judging those thoughts and feelings as good or bad
Name two different things you need from someone for them to be considered your friend.
A combination of: kindness; respect; care; help; fun times; funny; compliments; honesty
Manners A) really don't matter anymore, or B) can still go a long way to help you make new friends.
B) Still go a long way in making new friends - people typically don't want to be around you if you're rude, so your chances of keeping friends are way higher if you just put a little effort into minding your manners. It shows respect.
True or False: I should say positive things about myself to myself, even if it's something I don't know or believe about myself.
Very true - we should say positive things about ourselves every day or as least as often as possible! Love yourself!
In order to be successful, you should ____________________.
Put in effort; have courage; be creative; be persistent; take risks; make mistakes.
What is your favorite coping skill?
Personal choice
___________ is the name of the word which describes how we can tell the difference between types of relationships. Sets the basic guidelines of how a person or group of people want to be treated
Boundaries - When we know our boundaries well, we can tell the difference between strangers and acquaintances, acquaintances and friends, friends and family, etc.
Before you speak or do, you need to __________________
*Bonus: What does it stand for? Is it _________________
T.H.I.N.K.
*True, Helpful, Important, Necessary (Nice), Kind?
What is a bucket LID for?
*Bonus: How can you use your lid?
Your bucket holds your good thoughts and feelings and you need to keep and protect them. It protects the happiness in your bucket.
*Stop, Take a Deep Breath, and Think - Don't dip back; use your coping skills; walk away; talk to a trusted person
I CAN control myself, my behaviors, what I say and what I do. I CAN'T control _____________________.
The weather; other people; what people say; what people do; time; the future; the past; our thoughts; etc.
What are some examples of mindfulness?
Deep breathing/ focus on your breaths; Meditating; Yoga; S.T.O.P. (Stop, Take a deep breath, observe, proceed); Finger candles; Counting