Secrets & Gossip
True or false: It is okay to tell a trusted adult if a secret you hear makes you feel worried or scared.
True!
Name two qualities that make someone a good friend
e.g., Kindness, honesty, helpfulness, trustworthiness, sharing, listening, or caring
Name two safe ways to solve a conflict
e.g., talking calmly, listening, taking turns, asking a teacher for help
True or false: Apologizing to someone means you are admitting to being bad
False -- apologizing is not admitting you are bad, it's just showing your friend you care and want to make them feel better.
Which of these is a safe secret?
A) A surprise birthday party for your teacher
B) A secret about someone getting hurt
C) A secret that makes you feel scared
A
What should you do if your friend is being treated unkindly by someone?
Stand up for your friend in a safe way, include them, tell a trusted adult if needed, or help them feel supported
Why is yelling at someone not a good idea when trying to solve a conflict... even if you're really mad?
Yelling is a bad idea because it can make the other person feel defensive or upset, so they stop listening. Even if you’re really mad, staying calm helps them hear you and work together to solve the problem.
True or false: After you apologize, it is okay to just repeat the bad thing you did later on because you already apologized!
False -- an apology can become meaningless if you keep repeating your mistake.
What is gossip?
Talking about someone behind their back, often about things that may not be true.
True or false: A good friend always agrees with everything you say?
False - good friends may disagree with you and share their different ideas but still treat you with respect
Is her body language showing her friend that she's open to solving a conflict?
She's looking down and speaking very quietly. It looks like she's trying to walk away.
No!
What are the three parts of a strong apology?
Say sorry for what you did
Tell them you won’t do it again and then don’t do it again
Ask if there is anything they need to feel better
False -- even if it's true, gossip can hurt people's feelings and reputation
What does it mean to take someone else's perspective?
Taking someone else’s perspective means trying to understand how they feel, think, or see a situation, even if it’s different from how you feel or think. Some adults say it's like "putting yourself in their shoes."
What is an I-statement? What does it sound like?
I feel ........ when you .........
Next time please ..........
Alex told Ella that her drawing was ugly. When Ella became upset, Alex said "It was just a joke! I didn't mean it!" What is missing from this apology?
Didn't say sorry
Didn't commit to not saying that again in the future
Didn't ask if Ella was okay
What is the difference between a secret and gossip?
A secret is private information meant to be kept safe, while gossip is often shared with others without permission
True or false: Having good friends makes you less likely to get sick and helps you live longer
True!
What does it mean to compromise during a conflict?
Compromising means finding a solution where all people give up what they want a little and agree on something fair.
Talia hit Lola with a ball at recess by accident. When Lola got hurt and said "hey, you hit me!" Lola fell to the ground crying and said sorry 10 times. What is not good about this apology?
Talia is making the situation about herself. Now Lola will have to comfort Talia even though Lola is the one who got hurt.