Boundaries without drama
What is 1 area of your life where you can set a personal boundary?
Your time, personal space, belongings, privacy, or how others speak to you.
Name 1 quality of a supportive friend.
Answers may vary:
Kindness, honesty, respect, trustworthy, or dependable.
What is a toxic friendship?
Which of these goals gives the clearest plan?
"I'm going to do better in school," or "I'll turn in two missing assignments by Friday"? Why?
The second one. It gives a specific action and a deadline.
What is online peer pressure?
Feeling pressured by others online to do something you aren't comfortable with.
*Similar answers accepted*
Someone you're dating expects you to answer immediately if they call or text you - even when you're in class, spending time with family, or asleep. What is a reasonable boundary?
(EX) I'll answer when I'm available. I can't be on my phone all the time.
What does it mean to respect your friends boundaries?
Respecting someone's boundaries means listening when they tell you what they are or aren't comfortable with. If they say "no," you don't keep asking, become angry over it, or try to make them feel guilty. You may not like their answer and that's okay, but you still respect it.
Someone only contacts you when they need money, a ride, answers to homework, or a favor. What is this friend known as?
The User
*It's a one-sided friendship. They are quick to take but never give anything to the friendship.*
How can your choices today affect your future goals?
They can help you make progress or make your goals much harder to reach.
Why is it important to think before posting something when you're angry?
What you post can affect your reputation, hurt someone, or reveal private information. Even if you delete it, someone may have already saved or shared it.
How can you acknowledge someone's feelings without changing your boundary?
Answers may vary:
Say "I understand you're disappointed, but my answer is still no."
You and a friend disagree about something. Name two ways you can handle it without damaging the friendship.
Listen, avoid insults, talk privately, take a break if needed, explain your perspective, or agree to disagree.
Reminder: It's okay to disagree.
Does doing a favor for a friend mean they owe you whatever you ask for?
No. Helping someone doesn't give you control over their choices or mean you are in debt to them forever.
You're saving for a car, but your friends want you to spend most of your money this weekend on an expensive activity. What could you do that supports your goals while still leaving room for fun?
Put savings aside first, set a spending limit, suggest doing something cheaper, or skip the expensive activity.
How can online popularity make a harmful choice seem acceptable?
Seeing lots of people approve can make it feel normal, even when it causes harm.
What is the difference between these two statements?
A. "You're not allowed to talk to anyone I don't like."
B. "If you start insulting me, I'll stop talking to you."
Statement A tries to control another person.
Statement B sets a boundary about what you will do to protect yourself.
What's the difference between defending a friend and defending their behavior?
You can stand up for your friend without making excuses for something hurtful they did.
Why is trying to control who you spend time with a red flag in a friendship?
Answers may vary:
It can isolate you from people who care about you, limit your freedom to choose your own friends, and make you dependent on 1 person for support-you should be able to have other friendships without being punished or feeling guilty.
What is the difference between a short-term goal and a long-term goal?
How much time it takes to achieve them.
Short-term: Something you plan to accomplish soon-within days, weeks, or a few months.
Long-term: It takes more time and planning - often many months or years.
Why is "If you trust me, give me your password" a pressure tactic?
It uses guilt to make you feel like you have to give up your privacy to prove you're trust. Real trust means respecting each other's boundaries, not demanding access to their accounts.
Why is a boundary more useful than expecting someone to automatically "know" what bothers you?
Answers may vary:
People can't read your mind, and what bothers you may not bother someone else. Clearly explaining your boundaries helps them understand what you're comfortable with and what needs to stop. It prevents misunderstandings and gives them a chance to respect your limits.
Why can getting help for a friend be more loyal than keeping a secret that could seriously harm them?
If a friend is in danger - Telling a trusted adult isn't snitching, gossiping, or betraying them - it's helping to protect them.
They could be upset with you at first, but having their back means caring enough to speak up when their safety is at risk.
A friend who breaks your trust by sharing private information, lying, or turning against you is known as?
Hint: One word
Betrayer
Name one short-term goal you want to accomplish in the next month and 1 long-term goal you want to accomplish in the next year or more.
Answers will vary.
Examples:
Short-term- Save $100 this month
Long-term- Graduating high school
Why doesn't someone sending you a private message give you the right to share it with others?
They trusted you with that message, not everyone else. Sharing it without permission can break their trust and expose personal information.