Conflict Management
The most destructive horseman in relationships, often expressed with mockery or sarcasm.
What is contempt?
Believing your own efforts and choices shape your future.
What is an internal locus of control?
Beliefs that make someone feel inherently flawed, incompetent, or inferior.
What is defectiveness/damaged?
This communication style involves expressing your needs while also listening to others.
What is assertive communication?
The highest score for "Heads Up" activity was..
What is 6 7? *hands up and down. Jk, it was 9.
The antidote for defensiveness in a relationship, involving taking responsibility for your actions.
What is accountability?
Saying “Getting a job is a shot in the dark; there’s nothing I can do” demonstrates this.
What is an external locus of control?
This belief often leads people to over-apologize, excessively help others, or feel responsible for others’ happiness.
What is caretaking/responsibility/self-sacrifice?
Eye-rolling, “fine” texts, and subtle digs often indicate this communication style.
What is passive-aggressive communication?
This animal poops in cubes
What is a Wombat?
In the “Ugli Orange Case,” Dr. Roland needs this part of the fruit to neutralize a nerve gas.
What is the rind of the Ugli orange?
This is the only letter that doesn’t appear in any U.S. state name.
What is Q?
To challenge a core belief, you can look for this type of evidence from your life.
What is evidence that contradicts the belief?
Someone who speaks loudly, interrupts, or disregards others’ needs is likely using this style.
What is aggressive communication?
As a child, Vince was kidnapped. What did the ransom note say?
What is "bring him back in a million little pieces"?
The practice of using music, scents, or touch to calm oneself during a heated discussion.
What is self-soothing?
Believing that external forces control your outcomes describes this orientation.
What is external locus of control?
Feeling that you will inevitably be left alone or abandoned is related to this core belief.
What is abandonment?
Prioritizing others’ needs while staying quiet, avoiding confrontation, and lacking eye contact shows this style.
What is passive communication?
The tiny plastic thing at the end of a shoelace is called...
What is an Aglet?
Discussing one issue at a time in an argument is part of this guideline for fair fighting.
What is fighting fair?
A group of flamingos is called this.
What is a flamboyance?
Believing you must always be perfect and do everything yourself is an example of this combined self-sacrificing belief type.
What is caretaking/responsibility/self-sacrifice?
Statements that start with “I feel” and focus on the behavior or problem, not the person.
What is “I” statements?
The only food that can never go bad
What is Honey?