About the Group
When we meet
Every Monday/Thursday during lunch/BB
Self-esteem is
your overall opinion of yourself
What a friend is
Someone you choose to spend time with and who you have a mutual bond with.
What conflict is
a disagreement or a fight
Boundaries are
the limits and rules you set for yourself in a relationship that define what behaviors, words, or actions you will and will not accept from other people.
The room number of where we meet
106
SomeONE that impact self-esteem
A characteristic or trait of a good friend
Empathetic/caring, Kind/Supportive, Trustworthy, Authentic, Comforting
Causes of conflict
Misunderstandings, Miscommunications, Different wants, Unfair treatment, Internal conflicts, Personality clashes, Unmet needs
Healthy boundaries in a relationship (with example)
Healthy boundaries are clear, flexible, and assertive. They protect your personal space, time, and emotional energy without controlling or punishing the other person. They are based on mutual respect.
EX: I'm going to hang up now because I need to go to sleep. We can talk more tomorrow.
Number 1 Rule of Group
Hint: We are in Vegas!
Confidentiality
SomeTHING that impacts self-esteem
Social media, television, advertisements, societal norms or customs, culture, etc..
A characterstic of a bad friend
Jealous, Controlling, Disrespectful, Unsupportive, Dishonest, Manipulative
Name 3 of the 4 Unhealthy Conflict Responses
Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn
Unhealthy boundaries in a relationship
Unhealthy boundaries are rigid, weak, or aggressive. They often involve trying to control the other person's behavior, abandoning your own needs, or withdrawing completely.
EX: "If you hang out with that person, I will stop talking to you."
The group goals and objectives
To grow skills in areas such as self-esteem, maintaining and making friendships, handling conflicts, and setting boundaries.
How it feels to have a good self esteem
(Do not say good or happy)
Possible responses: powerful, empowering, peaceful, pleasant, positive, proud, radiat, refreshed, relaxed, relieved, safe, satisfied....etc.
Red Flag, Yellow Flag, Green Flag, or Blue Flag:
"Trisha never laughs at your jokes."
Blue Flag
Some steps in a healthy conflict response
Format of Setting a Boundary with "I" Statements
I feel...when you...I need...
The group facilitator's name
Ali
How it feels to have a bad self-esteem
(Do not say sad, mad, or bad)
Possible responses: miserable, overwhelming, scary, crushing, deflating, discouraging, embarrassing, hopeless, inadequate, isolated, lonely, lost...etc.
Red Flag, Yellow Flag, Green Flag, or Blue Flag:
"Phoebe makes comments about your food at lunch, saying you shouldn’t eat so much."
Red Flag
HEALTHY Conflict Scenarios:
Copy Cat
"I understand you feel used when I ask you for the homework answers so much. I'm sorry that I made you feel that way, and in the future, I will do my own homework and ask for help when I need it instead of copying your answers. I hope we can still be friends because I value our friendship."
HEALTHY Boundary Setting Scenario
A bag of chips
"Everyday, I feel frustrated when you beg for some of my chips. I do not like sharing my food. I need you to stop."