Self-Esteem
Self-esteem is...
how much you value, accept, and respect yourself as a person!
Self-fulfilling prophecy is
a psychological and sociological process where an initially false expectation or belief leads to behaviors that make that prediction come true.
A bridge statement is...
Neutral, fact-based phrases used in self-talk to gently transition the mind from negative or extreme thoughts (cognitive distortions) to more realistic, balanced perspectives
A positive affirmation is...
Positive statements you repeat to challenge negative thoughts and build self-belief.
Maya didn't get invited to a sleepover and thought "Everyone hates me." A bridge statement would be...
I am disappointed, but I still have good friends
OR...
Types of self-esteem
high and low
If you tell yourself "I’m bad at math" before a test, you might do what during the test?
freeze up, give up, give bum answers
Instead of jumping from "I hate how I look" to "I am gorgeous," a bridge statement might sound like...
I am learning to appreciate how I look, I like my outfit, I am trying.
True or False: I have to say something positive about myself for it to be a positive affirmation
false; you can say a positive statement about anything to make it a positive affirmation, as long as it shifts your thinking.
When receiving a genuine compliment, instead of deflecting or denying it, the healthiest response is simply saying
Thank you
Name one WHO and one WHAT that impacts self-esteem
any person, social media, television, media, achievements, failures, society, culture, developmental changes.
Believing that "no one will talk to me at the party" often causes a person to do what?
Withdraw or avoiding people
Make a bridge statement of this cognitive distortion...
"I bet everyone secretly thinks I'm annoying."
"It's not my business what everyone thinks of me."
or...
Give an example of a positive affirmation
I am enough, I am trying, I'm grateful that I am here today...etc
Taylor made a mistake at a soccer game and spent the rest of the game on the bench because she believed she was terrible at soccer. Her team ended up losing and then Taylor believed it was her fault. This is an example of what?
the self-fulfilling prophecy
How would it feel to have a high and a low self esteem? Do not say mad, bad, glad, sad.
high: proud, confident, energized, optimistic
low: shameful, depressed, irritable, unloved, anxious
How might telling yourself, "it was just a bad moment, not a bad day" might change the rest of your day?
you'll positively engage with others more and thus make it a better day
Create a bridge statement for the following cognitive distortion...
"My parents are going to kill me when they see I got a D in science."
"My parents might be disappointed to see I have a D in science but I can always work towards making it better to make them proud."
True or false: this is an example of a positive affirmation "Every day can be the best day ever."
false, that statement is unbelievable and unhelpful to the emotional mind.
Telling yourself something you're grateful for every day is an example of a...
positive affirmation
Name one sign of high self-esteem and one sign of low self-esteem from the Winnie the Pooh video
high: tigger was energetic, he wanted to include his friend, he was taking on a challenge without self doubt.
low: Eeyore was lowering his head, doubted himself, claimed he was left behind, and he was not receptive to Tigger's attempts to cheer him up
Thoughts are not...
facts
Make this cringy affirmation a bridge statement
"The world is a better place with me in it."
"I have friends and family who love me deeply and want me to stick around."
Affirmations work best when focused on internal qualities like kindness or courage instead of what?
appearance, popularity, grades, external validation
Bernadette includes her friends in activities, asks for help when she needs it, and she sets boundaries with her friends when something hurts her feelings. These are signs that...
Bernadette has a high self esteem