Flexible Thinking
Which of the following is the definition for Flexible Thinking
A) Being able to think about a situation from more than one perspective
B) Thinking about a problem in only one way and believing there are no other possible ways to solve the problem.
A) Being able to think about a situation from more than one perspective
True or False:
Setting a goal for yourself can increase your self esteem (the way you feel about yourself).
True!
Setting goals helps give us motivation and feel like we are about to accomplish something. And that feels good.
What is something that might make you feel worried or nervous?
Almost any answer works! For example:
- a problem with a friend
- taking a test
- teacher calling home
- speaking in front of others
True or False.
Whole Body Listening involves looking at the speaker and does not involve the rest of your body.
False!
True or False.
Only boys should study engineering and math.
False!
This is an old way of thinking. Girls' brains are just as equipped for these subjects. In fact, the science/engineering and math field needs more women.
A classmate is looking at you from across the room. You assume it is because they want to be mean and make funny faces at you. Is this an example of Flexible or Rigid Thinking?
Rigid Thinking
Which of the following actions might make you feel good about yourself?
A) Laying on the couch all day
B) Giving a friend a compliment
C) Telling yourself you're not good enough
B) Giving a friend a compliment.
TRUE OR FALSE
If you're having anxiety before a test, you will most likely do poorly on the test.
False!
Most people experience some jitters before a test and research shows that most of the time, anxiety does not affect test performance.
Which of the following actions is important for keeping a conversation flowing?
(A) Asking related questions
(B) Interrupting others so you can tell your story
(C) Looking away from the speaker
(A) Asking related questions
True or False:
More boys in the world are allowed to go to school than girls.
True.
Throughout history, boys were always able to go to school but girls weren't always allowed. In some places girls are still not allowed to go to school.
Your teacher asks to talk to you after class. What are 2 reasons why?
- to ask about your homework
-to congratulate you on getting an A on your test
- to ask if you are okay because she's worried about you
- to give you recess detention for not turning in assignments
- to ask if you can be the student leader tomorrow while she is gone.
- to ask if you will help her carry some books to the office
What is the opposite of negative self talk?
Positive self-talk :)
Name three things you can do to help calm your body.
- Take deep breaths
- Take a break
- Talk to a friend
- Use positive self talk
- Name all the colors in the room
- Count to twenty and then count backwards.
- Do a push up or carry something heavy
Serena is telling Liam a story about her weekend. He is moving his arms from side to side and sometimes looking at the ceiling. How does this make Serena feel?
This makes Serena feel disappointed (sad) that Liam is not paying attention to what she is sharing. She also might feel disrespected (annoyed or mad).
True or False
Girls are more likely than boys to talk negatively about their bodies.
True.
However, all people should be nice to their bodies and notice all the positive things we can say about our bodies.
You had a pencil on your desk and it is now missing. Giving two or more reasons why.
- The pencil rolled off the desk
- A student took it
- A friend saw that someone might take it and is saving it for you.
- You accidentally put the pencil in your pocket and you forgot.
Turn this negative self statement into a positive self statement:
"This is so hard, I will never get this".
"This is tough but if I just keep practicing I'll get it"
"This is hard, but I can do hard things"
What is Ms. Derks' favorite meditation app?
Headspace
What is a related question you could ask in this situation?
Your classmate is talking about her cat
Examples include the following. Related questions are important because they show interest in another person.
- What's your cat's name?
- How old is your cat?
- What color is your cat?
- What does your cat like to do?
True or False:
We should always compare ourselves.
False!
Comparing ourselves to others usually causes us to not notice our strengths and positive qualities. Instead we should point out the positive qualities we have and give others compliments for their positive qualities.
Your parents tell you that you have to reduce your screen time. What are two or more reasons why?
- Your parents are mean and trying to punish you
- Your parents notice that you spend too much time with screens and want you to enjoy other activities
- Your parents are worried about the effects of screen time on the brain and want to protect you.
- Your parents are worried that too much screen time takes away from homework.
Give yourself 1 compliment and give someone in the group a compliment.
Any compliment works as long as it is kind!
True or False:
You must always try to get rid of anxiety or nervousness.
False.
Sometimes trying too hard to get rid of anxiety will cause MORE anxiety. Sometimes it's best to just let it pass.
Simone is talking in a group of five girls but only asks related questions and makes related comments to Sarah in the group. What might the other girls think?
The other girls might think that she is not interested in talking to them. It may also come off as rude or confusing, since you should include all people during a group conversation.
Why is it important to build friendships with other girls?
Because we are stronger together and can do even greater things together!