Goals of IE
This component of interpersonal effectiveness consists of having your own wants and needs met.
What is Objective Effectiveness?
You are not demonstrating this GIVE skill if you are yelling, making threats, making judgements, and making verbal attacks.
What is "Gentle"?
This is a non-judgmental way of saying "You should help me out more."
What is "I'd like you to give me more help"?
It is important not to see the world in these two colors. Explain why.
What is "Black and White"?
Name two ways to self-validate.
What is check all the facts, practice radical acceptance of yourself, self-sooth, etc.?
This component of interpersonal effectiveness consists of maintaining and strengthening current health relationships and building new positive relationships.
What is Relationship Effectiveness?
You practiced this GIVE skill when you talk to each other while listening to what the other has to say.
What is "act Interested"?
The skills to use when relationships are your priority.
What are the GIVE Skills?
This is the first step in validation.
What is pay attention to what the other person is saying?
A skill in conversations where we are not necessarily agreeing with the other person, but we are acknowledging how their response makes sense in some way.
What is validating?
This component of interpersonal effectiveness consists of validating our needs and wants and avoiding doing things that would make us feel guilty or bad about our actions.
What is Self-Respect Effectiveness?
If Gary said to Brook, "I know you worked hard getting dinner ready, but I just need a few minutes to watch the game," he would have been using this GIVE skill.
What is "Validating"?
When I use humor and a smile, I am using this type of manner.
What is "Easy Manner"?
This aspect of validation includes being sensitive to what is not being said by the other person by paying attention to facial expressions, body language, and what you already know about the other person.
What is Mind Reading?
What do we want to avoid when describing people?
What are judgments?
The three goals of Interpersonal Effectiveness.
What are "Objective Effectiveness - getting what you want/need", "Relationship Effectiveness - keeping/building relationships", & "Self-Respect Effectiveness - maintaining respect for self"?
At the end of the movie when Gary and Brook saw each other they both smiled, laughed, and used this GIVE skill.
When we observe, describe, and participate we are practicing being __________ of others.
What is mindful?
This may happen when you are ignored, being misunderstood, or are disbelieved when being truthful.
What is invalidation?
Name three ways you can appear confident while communicating with others.
What are eye contact, confident tone of voice, speaking loud and clear, good body posture, etc.?
The following components make up __________. Finding new healthy relationships and strengthening existing healthy relationships, validating self and sticking to moral beliefs, and getting our needs and wants met.
What is Interpersonal Effectiveness?
The 4 skills that make up the GIVE skill are
What is Gentle, act Interested, Validate, and Easy manner?
By not using attacks and threats, you are completing this step of the GIVE skill.
What is Gentle?
Making small talk, not interrupting, and asking and responding to questions are all part of these type of skills.
What are conversation skills?
If a friend says to you, "I failed my math test! I'm so upset!" How would you validate them?
"I hear you're upset." "I can understand how you feel."