Predictors of Divorce
Conversation that Includes Always/Never and/or sarcasm?
Harsh startup
The thought "I'm so much better than my stupid partner"
Contempt
What is the antidote for stonewalling?
Physiological soothing
Principle that focuses on what you love about your partner and praising your partner?
Principle 2: Nurture Fondness and Admiration
Principle that focuses on making rituals and shared goals?
Principle 7: Create Shared Meaning
When your nervous system is in overdrive? Think heated argument
Flooding
Thinking "Are they seriously still compaining? I'm just going to wait it out and make up a reason to leave the house."
Stonewalling
What is the antidote for contempt? (2 parts)
1. Building a culture of appreciation
2. Use gentle start up
Principle that focuses on welcoming and respecting your partners thoughts and ideas?
Principle 4: Let your partner influence you or Accept influence
What is the name of the building we are in?
Joplin family worship tree of life with communion and singing and occasionally air conditioning and refreshment center
Or
JFWC
Being dismissive of partners emotions, getting angry, or disregarding comments made by partner "I wasn't listening to you"
Failed Repair Attempts
Telling your partner "You suck at folding laundry and never put up my clothes the way I like."
Criticism
What is the antidote for Defensiveness?
Taking responsibility for at least some part of the issue
Principle that involves open ended questions and getting to know the little things about your partner?
Principle 1: Enhance Love Map
Principle that gives solution to feeling stuck in a problem or having differing dreams or goals?
Principle 6: Overcome Gridlock
The four Horsemen
Contempt, stonewalling, Defensiveness , and Criticism
Saying "I was busy watching the game and that's why I forgot to pick the kids up."
Defensiveness
What is the antidote for criticism?
Complain without blame
Principle that focuses on Reaching out, Accepting Bids for emotional connection, and Building trust?
Principle 3: Turn toward each other, instead of away
Who are the best Gottman facilitators?
Kelsey and James Laramore
Focusing time and attention on a negative from the past
Bad memories
What book of the Bible mentions the four Horsemen?
Revelations 6:1-8
Who's always right?
Your wife
Principle that Includes repair attempts, soothing self and partner, soft start up?
Principle 5: Solve Solvable Problems
FINALE QUESTION: WHO HAS A STRONGER RELATIONSHIP AFTER THIS WORKSHOP?
EVERYONE