Definitions
What is a coping skill?
A coping skill is a healthy way for someone to manage negative feelings. A coping skill can be used to make yourself feel better when you are feeling sad, angry, worried, or another negative feeling.
When someone is yelling or clenching their fist, what feeling are they most likely experiencing?
Anger.
April gets her grade back from her teacher. She received an F on her test. April starts to cry and throws her paper on the floor. What can April do to feel better?
Walk away, talk to her teacher about the grade, see the counselor, journal, take deep breaths
True or False...When someone is angry, they are only feeling anger. There are no other feelings involved.
False. There are feelings underneath anger, such as sadness, embarrassment, disappointment, and other feelings and emotions.
What is one healthy coping skill?
Exercise, meditation, taking deep breaths, talking to a counselor or trusted/safe adult, etc.
What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself. You can have positive self-esteem or negative self-esteem.
Robert went to school today and some people in his class talked about how he liked a girl in his class. Robert began blushing and looked down at the ground. He said he did not like the girl--even though he did. What feeling is Robert most likely experiencing?
Embarrassment.
Sam throws an item at Adam and laughs. Adam starts to feel angry. What is a positive/healthy way for Adam to react?
Walk away or tell the teacher.
True or False...taking care of yourself means that you just relax and play video games.
False. Taking care of yourself also means eating healthy, getting plenty of sleep, going to counseling, etc.
What is a negative/unhealthy coping skill?
Yelling at someone when you're mad. Punching someone. Keeping your feelings inside.
What is a role model?
A role model is someone you look up to. Like a superhero
Allison was sitting in class when her teacher discussed the class was going to play a game. Allison began talking a lot and kept getting out of her seat and jumping around. Allison is most likely feeling...
Excited or hyper.
Name two healthy ways to manage feelings of sadness.
Talk to a trusted/safe adult. Squeeze a stress ball, meditate, take deep breaths, etc.
True or False...you should always feel positive emotions/feelings.
False. You can feel whatever feeling/emotion. It's okay to feel anger, sadness, and other emotions.
Name 4 healthy coping skills in 30 seconds.
Talking to a trusted adult, taking deep breaths, exercising, squeezing a stress ball, playing with a pet, yoga, meditating.
What is a positive affirmation?
A positive affirmation is a nice way to talk to yourself.
James is a new kid at school. He looks around at all the people in his new class who are staring at him, and he starts to feel butterflies in his stomach. He goes to lunch and doesn't know where to sit..what is James feeling?
Nervous, worried, scared
What can cause someone to make bad choices when they normally wouldn't make bad choices?
They did not sleep well; they did not eat, something happened to them (a family member died, family issues, they made a poor grade, etc.)
True or False....positive self-esteem means being positive all the time
False. Positive self-esteem means feeling good about yourself and taking care of yourself
Name 4 unhealthy coping skills in 30 seconds.
Punching someone, yelling at someone, hurting yourself, playing video games/watching tv all night.
What is confidentiality?
Confidentiality is "what we say in here stays in here" unless I am worried about your safety.
Sarah talks to her friend Sam, who tells Sarah that she is moving at the end of the week. Sarah starts to feel like something is in her throat and her heart begins beating faster. Sam discusses how she is excited to move. Sarah looks at Sam and begins to yell at her and tells Sarah that she is a bad friend for moving. Sarah is angry that her friend is moving but Sarah also feels......
Sad. Worried.
Give an example of a time when you made a bad choice. How could you correct the bad choice?
TBD
True or False....counseling is a coping skill.
True
Meditate, drink water, exercise, yoga.