In My Control
Can you control the amount of effort you put into your work?
Yes
“I don't understand, so I'm going to ask for help.”
Proactive
You make a mistake on an assignment. What's one proactive thing you could do?
Fix it, try again, ask for help, learn from it, etc.
“It's too hard. I quit!”
“It's hard, but I'll keep trying/ask for help.”
What is Habit 1?
Be Proactive
Someone says something rude to you. What part of the situation CAN you control?
How you respond/your words and actions.
“She made me angry, so I yelled at her.”
Reactive
Your group doesn't choose your idea. What's a proactive way to respond?
Answer: Accept reasonable answers—continue helping, listen, compromise, etc.
“It's not my fault I forgot. Nobody reminded me!”
“I forgot, so I need to find a way to remember next time.”
What does it mean to be proactive?
Take responsibility for your choices/actions and choose how you respond.
Name two things at school that are outside of your control.
Other people's choices, weather, schedule, assignments, what someone says, etc.
“I don't agree with my group, but I'm going to listen to their ideas before I respond.”
Proactive
Someone is talking about you behind your back. What's a proactive response?
Answer: Stay calm, talk to the person appropriately, walk away, seek help if needed, avoid retaliating, etc.
“He was rude to me, so I was rude back!”
“I can't control what he said, but I can control how I respond.”
True or False: Being proactive means you never get angry or upset.
FALSE. You can have those feelings and still choose how you respond.
Finish the statement:
“I can't control ________, but I can control ________.”
“I didn't do my work because everyone around me was talking.”
Reactive
You studied for a test but still received a low grade. Name TWO proactive things you could do next.
Answer: Review mistakes, ask for help, study differently, practice more, talk with the teacher, etc.
“My group didn't listen to my idea, so I'm not helping anymore!”
“They didn't choose my idea, but I can still contribute and help my group.”
Which person is being MORE proactive?
A: “I'm waiting for my teacher to tell me what to do.”
B: “I know what needs to be done, so I'm going to get started.”
B