PBA/RBA:Relationships
What does PBA stand for?
Personal Bank Account
True or False.
You go to the store with your mom, she said she is only buying one 2-liter. You want Sprite and she wants Mountain Dew. She says "We are getting Mountain Dew."... From your perspective, You are in a Win-Lose situation.
False.
True
Give an example of a win-win situation
Answers Vary.
(T/F) Competition is always a bad thing.
False
What does RBA stand for?
Relationship Bank Account
What is the definition of a Win-Lose situation?
I win and someone else loses. Comes at the expense of someone else's needs/wants.
Give me an example of a lose-win situation.
Answers vary.
Answers vary.
The Tumor Twins.
What are...
Competing and Comparing
Give me 2 examples of things you can do to make a deposit into your PBA?
Answers vary... (Be kind to yourself, keep promises to yourself, Tap into your Talents)
Win-Lose is full of this because it is comparison and being above others that makes them happy.
What is...
PRIDE
This person is better known as this because people step all over them.
What is
The DoormatLose-Lose normally happens when two of these type of people get together.
What is
Win-Lose
What is..
When it is tied to your self-worth and/or when you use it as a way to place yourself above others.
Give me 2 examples of ways you can make a deposit into an RBA?
Answers Vary. (Keep promises to others, be loyal, listen, admit when you're wrong/apologize.)
Two "faces" a win-lose person wears. (How they act)
What is...
Using other people, emotionally or physically, to get what they want.
Spreading rumors, always insisting on getting their way, becoming jealous or envious... (etc)
A person who thinks Lose-Win does this easily...
What is..
Gives up...Or allows others to persuade them.
Win-Win people believe this.
What is..
Everyone can win/there's more than enough to go around for everyone. It's possible to find a situation/idea that benefits and considers everyone.
The definition of Comparing.
Evaluating yourself against someone else.
In a checking account, $10 is $10. But in a Relationship Bank Account "deposits" lose value over time. What is one way you can make sure your RBA with someone isn't losing value?
Make small deposits into your most important relationships to keep them positive.
Ex-> Text a friend you haven't seen in a while to see how they're doing.
What is..
The person at the bottom feels worthless.The person above them thinks "at least I'm better than the 1 person below me"..
The person at the top thinks "I'm better than everyone below me/I'm the best."
When someone is being a lose-win person they are lowering these.
What is..
Their expectations/standards.
(2 answers) Misery Loves Company means this.... and relates to which situation. "win/win or lose/lose"
(Answer will vary for first part)
People who are miserable will try to make others miserable too.
-- Lose/Lose
This is what you need to win a private victory/think win-win.
Personal Security/High self-esteem