Dealing with Peer Pressure
What is peer pressure?
Being told to do something (usually unexpected & wrong) that you don’t feel comfortable doing/know isn’t right.
What does Topic Twister make us do?
• Twist (change) topics around what only we want to talk about
• Forget about what others want to talk about/are already talking about
Is it okay to WANT others’ belongings?
Yes!
What is impulse control?
The skill to control our unexpected behaviors when we feel excited, frustrated, mad, etc.
What are personal boundaries?
A bubble that everyone has that shouldn’t be invade, especially when we’re feeling excited, frustrated, mad, etc.
Name atleast 1 thing that might happen if we do something that is unexpected & makes use feel uncomfortable.
• Dealing with consequences (usually from adults)
• Us & others having red, yellow, & blue zone feelings about our decision
Strategy #1 for defeating Topic Twister is “self-talk”.
Give an example of self-talk.
Example: “Does it look like others are interested in what I’m saying?”
***Tip: Look at others’ facial & body cues***
Is it okay to TAKE others’ belongings?
No!
What is the 3-step skill you can use to control your impulses?
STOP, SLOW, & GO!
How might others feel if you invade their personal boundaries?
Red, yellow, & blue zone feelings.
What should you do even if everyone else wants to do the wrong thing?
Do the right thing.
Strategy #2 for defeating Topic Twister is “asking questions about what others are talking about.”
***Make-up a scenario & role-play******Answers will vary depending on the role-play example***
Step #1 is to “think about whose belongings you want using self-talk”.
Give an example of self-talk.
Example: “Is this mine or someone else’s belonging?”
Explain STOP.
Boundaries or Not?
1. Hurting someone because you feel ma
2. Hugging someone without asking
1. Not
2. Not
What can we tell others when they want us to do something that we shouldn’t do/don’t want to do?
Examples:
• “I don’t want to do that!”
• I can’t do that because …”
• “No, I don’t want to!”
What are the other two strategies for defeating Topic Twister?
• Write down what you want to talk about for later
• Use fidgets to control impulses
Step #2 is to “ask for permission to see, use, or borrow others’ belongings.”
Give an example of how to ask for permission.
Example: “I know this isn’t mine, but may I see/use/borrow it?”
Explain SLOW.
Think about something expected to do (e.g., use coping tools).
Boundaries or Not?
1. Telling others to stop when they invade your personal boundaries
2. Stopping when others tell you to stop invading their personal boundaries
1. Boundaries
2. Boundaries
What should you do if others’ don’t give you permission to see/use/borrow their belongings?
Accept no & use your coping tools if you feel red, yellow, or blue zone feelings.
***Tip: Remember that everyone has different boundaries/rules that tells others what’s okay & not okay***
Explain GO.
Do the expected thing (e.g., use coping tools).
Boundaries or Not?
1. Taking others’ belongings without their permission
2. Telling others’ you don’t want to do something that is wrong & makes you feel uncomfortable
3. Telling others to stop when they invade your personal boundaries
4. Stopping when others tell you to stop invading their personal boundaries
1. Not
2. Boundaries