Boundaries
Define personal boundaries
Is judgement a part of mindfulness?
NO!
What are thinking errors?
Things we tell ourselves to allow certain behaviors to happen - a wrong way of thinking
What is active listening?
Really listening to someone - looking at the person who is talking, focusing on what they are saying, and check in to see if you understand
Name 3 group rules
No phone, not talking when others are talking, participating, no judgement, being supportive to group members, etc
Give an example of a physical boundary
Space/physical touch - 5 feet distance, personal bubble, hight five, hug, etc
What is mindfulness?
Focusing on the here and now to help yourself relax, slow down, and tune into your body
This thinking error happens when future consequences are not thought about
Distant Elephants
Give 2 examples of non verbal listening cues
What is drive by listening?
listening without body language or acknowledgement - you've heard it all before and know what they are going to say before they say it
What are the three boundary types?
Rigid, porous, and healthy
What is a benefit of using mindfulness?
Helps us relax, relieve anxiety, help sleep
This is when you only think about yourself
Me, me, me
Name 1 good thing about active listening
Help other person feel heard, gets rid of hearing what they're saying wrong, make sure we understand what the person said
What is empathy?
Can a person have a mix of boundary types (rigid, porous, and healthy)?
Yes! Depends on setting, relationship, etc
Name one mindfulness activity
Brain gym, guided imagery, breathing exercises
This one doesn't leave room for anything else to be true. Hint: always and never are used
Universals
What is most important when using active listening?
Checking in - repeat back what we hear to make sure we understand!
What is the difference between rigid, porous, and healthy boundaries?
Rigid - hardly sharing anything at all
Porous - sharing too much
Healthy - sharing the right amount
How are emotions involved in boundaries?
Mindfulness includes thoughts and what?
Feelings
What is the difference between blaming and justifying?
Blaming - finger pointing as though someone else is responsible for your actions
Justifying - coming up with a good reason for why you did something you weren't supposed to
Name the 4 ways we listen
Drive by listening, the fixer, the multitasker, and the active listener
Name 10 of the 15 thinking errors
Blaming, minimizing, justifying, me me me, distant elephants, victim stance, denial, universals, assuming, lying, avoidance, magical thinking, diminished capacity syndrome, acting helpless, the "I didn't have time"