DEAR MAN
"I know my sister like I know my own mind, you will never find anyone as trusting or as kind". What letter of DEAR MAN is she using to give unarguable facts about Eliza?
Describe
Aaron Burr’s life motto is "Talk less, smile more." He is hyper-focused on this letter of the GIVE skill, which means keeping things lighthearted and non-threatening.
Easy Manner
Hamilton writes the Reynolds Pamphlet, completely destroying his marriage and self-esteem to protect his political name. He completely threw away this acronym, which is designed to keep your self-respect.
FAST
The ED voice whispers, "If you eat that snack, you are throwin' away your shot." Reframe this lyric using FAST to show what a real "shot" at a healthy life looks like
Sticking to recovery values and fueling your body
Lin-Manuel Miranda famously started writing the musical after reading a massive biography of Alexander Hamilton while on a beach vacation. He originally envisioned Hamilton not as a stage show, but as a hip-hop concept album called The Hamilton
Mixtape
Alexander writes 51 Federalist Papers to aggressively argue his point. He completely forgot this letter of DEAR MAN, which means being willing to compromise and find a middle path.
Negotiate
When Eliza sings "Helpless," she is completely locked onto Hamilton. In a healthy friendship, this letter of GIVE means actively listening and showing the other person they matter.
Interested
Eliza sings, "I am erasing myself from the narrative." She burns her letters because Alexander broke the "T" in FAST, which stands for this value.
Truthful
A peer in treatment is talking about their target weight. Your ED wants you to compete. Channeling your inner Angelica Schuyler, you use DEAR MAN to say this to change the topic.
Describing the fact ("We are talking about numbers") and asserting a boundary ("I need us to talk about something else to stay safe")
The fast-talking song "Guns and Ships" sung by Lafayette holds the Broadway record for the fastest song in musical theater history. Lafayette packs 19 words into just ________ seconds
3
When King George sings, "You'll be back," he is trying to use this letter of DEAR MAN by threatening consequences if the colonies leave, though a healthy recovery version means focusing on positive rewards.
Reinforce
In "The Schuyler Sisters," Angelica says, "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal." When she meets Burr, she uses this letter of GIVE to keep things polite but sharp, avoiding a verbal attack.
Gentle
Alexander frequently apologizes to no one and defends his flaws to everyone. The "A" in FAST tells us to do this when standing up for our recovery values.
No-Apologies
Your parent is acting like a helicopter, watching everything like King George watching the colonies. To use GIVE, you avoid yelling and instead use this type of communication statement.
"I" statement
In the original Broadway production, King George III is on stage for less than ________ minutes total, yet the actor who played him (Jonathan Groff) was nominated for a Tony Award for the role
9 minutes
Burr sings that Hamilton "Exhibits no restraint." Hamilton struggles with the "M" in DEAR MAN, which tells us to stick to our main point and ignore distractions. Name this skill.
Mindful
Washington tells Hamilton, "I know it's hard, but you have to step down." He understands Hamilton's frustration. This letter of GIVE means letting someone know you hear their feelings, even if you disagree with their actions.
Validate
John Laurens fights against slavery because it aligns with his core beliefs. This represents the "S" in FAST.
Stick to Values
You feel guilty for needing an adjustment and want to say, "I'm sorry to be a pain, but..." The FAST skill says you should delete those words and replace them with this phrasing.
Deleting apology
he actual historical Alexander Hamilton was a master of words, but he desperately needed the FAST skill of self-restraint. When accused of financial corruption, he defended himself by writing a massive, 95-page essay confession known as the Reynolds Pamphlet—which completely ruined his own ________.
Marriage
To stand up to King George, the colonists had to use the "A" in DEAR MAN to clearly ask for independence. What is this skill?
Assert
Aaron Burr suppresses his own feelings so much that he won't tell anyone what he wants. He relies too heavily on GIVE and forgets to use this skill framework to ask for what he needs.
DEAR MAN
The "F" in FAST requires being this to both yourself and the other person—not over-giving until you burn out, but not being selfish either.
Fair
Your old friend group texts you a picture of a "diet trend." The ED wants you to fit in. To stay Truthful (FAST) to your treatment journey, what do you text back?
Lin-Manuel Miranda spent an entire ________ years writing just the first two songs of the musical—"Alexander Hamilton" and "My Shot"—because he wanted every single syllable and rhyme to be perfect
Two years