Feeling Facts
You can experience two or more feelings around the same event, even feelings that seem opposite.
What are combinations of feelings?
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Example: excited and afraid at the same time.
This feeling happens when you are not interested in anything and time seems to pass slowly.
What is boredom?
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Clenched fists, a hot face, shaking, and blurry vision are examples of these.
What are physical signs of anger?
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This strategy means stepping away for a moment, gathering the facts, breathing, and thinking before acting.
What is taking a time out?
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Your coping skills are more likely to become habits when you do this regularly.
What is practice?
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What does the journal say people may mistake for feelings when they use the words 'feel' or 'feeling'?
What are thoughts and beliefs?
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This powerful feeling can create an urge to fight or escape from what seems threatening.
What is fear?
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Insults, rudeness, name-calling, shouting, and swearing are all forms of this dangerous response.
What is verbal aggression?
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This strategy asks you to use a 'camera check' to separate facts from personal interpretations.
What is checking the facts?
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A self-management plan should include a main coping strategy and this in case the first one does not work.
What is a backup strategy?
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What four actions does the journal say are needed to handle feelings honestly and appropriately?
What are recognize, accept, express, and manage feelings?
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Response must include all four actions.
This feeling is described as deep and bitter anger.
What is resentment?
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At the center of most anger is a hidden wish, want, or desire that something be this way.
What is the way it 'should' be?
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Which coping strategy includes seeking honest and objective feedback from counselors, staff, supportive peers, friends, or family?
What is seek help and support?
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What four healthy alternatives are listed on page 28?
What are muscle relaxation and deep breathing, physical activity, positive mental images, and positive affirmations?
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Response must include all four.
Blaming another person for your feelings gives that person this over how you feel.
What is control?
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The journal says your feelings belong to you.
These are the four feelings emphasized in Chapter 2.
What are boredom, fear, resentment, and anger?
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Require all four.
Words such as never, always, and forever are clues that a person is using this kind of negative self-talk.
What are absolutes?
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Creating a mental movie and rehearsing a healthy response are parts of this strategy.
What is being prepared?
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When preparing for a difficult situation, what does the journal tell you to create and rehearse?
What is a mental movie of how you will respond in a healthy way?
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The messages you repeatedly tell yourself are called this, and they influence your feelings.
What is self-talk?
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What three tips does the journal give for freeing yourself from resentment?
What are take full responsibility for your own behavior, accept the world as it is today, and forgive people you believe have harmed you?
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Response must include all three tips.
DAILY DOUBLE!!!
The question 'Who does he think he is?' hides the speaker's real thoughts and is this type of negative self-talk.
What is a rhetorical question?
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Name all seven proven coping strategies listed in the journal.
What are seek help and support, check the facts, challenge your negative self-talk, find healthy alternatives, be prepared, take a time out, and keep your options open?
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Response must include all seven.
After using a coping skill, the tracking sheet has the youth rate this again to compare how the feeling changed.
What is the intensity of the new feelings?
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