Eating Together
What is a heker?
During a state of Niddah, couple needs a private, unoticable to others physical reminder on dining table of her status
What are the three affectionate ways you can't serve each other.
Alcholic drinks, turning down the bed, making a bath
During niddah how do the couple sleep?
In separate beds
How must a woman dress around her husband at home when a niddah?
modestly
What type of interactions should the couple avoid during niddah status?
frivolous or flirtatious interaction
what are Restrictions of Pouring cups or serving food?
Sharing food on the same plate or sipping from the same cup
What is one drink everyone agrees can be poured for a spouse?
Water
What do couples do if they want to share one whole large bed for when she is tahor?
They keep an extra bed or trundle next to the main bed.
What is considered modest dress for a niddah at home with her husband?
what she would usually wear around the house
What should couples think about before they act during state of niddah?
They have to be honest about what things arouse their desires
During state of niddah, husband and wife cannot do this at the dining table?
pass food directly to eachother
When can someone turn down their spouses bed when in nidah?
when they are not in the room
How can a couple have a larger bed when not in niddah and separate beds when in niddah?
by having two smaller beds pushed together to make a larger bed, they can be separated during niddah time.
Does the wife need to cover her hair at home durring niddah?
No if she doesn't usually cover her hair around only her husband at home.
What do couples need to be sensative about?
Emotional needs including being caring, considerate, having good communication, and good emotional support
What is one way her husband may share in wifes leftovers?
If someone ate or drank after her, food or drink transferred to another plate, he doesnt know they belong to her , she is not present
What is the additional instruction that specifically applies to the husband?
He cannot pass his wife a cup of wine or grape juice intended for her.
What is the difference for husbands and wives when it comes to lying in the others bed during niddah status?
Husband - cannot lie or in wifes bed
Wife - can sit on her husband's bed, and lie down on it when he is not there but cannot lie down when he is there
No she should dress nicely to feel good about herself and be attractive to her husband.
What are some thoughtful gestures couples CAN do during niddah?
Flowers for shabbos, cards, small gifts (ofc while still using common sense to what might deem to be intimate)