Susan’s Story
What two substances did Susan use to loosen up?
Alcohol and cocaine
What does catastrophizing mean?
Believing the worst will happen.
Name one fun sober activity.
Hiking, dancing, movies, etc.
Why is dating high risk?
Old hangouts or nerves trigger cravings
What's the best part about remembering your night out when you're sober?
Realizing you don't have to text 12 people the next day apologizing for things you might have said!!!
What event led to Susan’s relapse?
Her Birthday Celebration
Example of overgeneralizing?
I’m shy, so I can’t talk to people
Why do people relapse at fun times?
Make a 'special exception'
What belief helps with self-image?
'My body is basically okay'
What's the biggest downside to remembering everything you said last night?
You can't blame the vodka for bad jokes.
What hobby did she use to stay busy?
Reading or stained glass.
Example of all-or-nothing thinking?
'If I can’t drink, I can’t have fun'
Strategy for sober fun?
Plan Supportive activities.
Qualities in a life partner?
Kind, honest, similar values
Why did Susan stop dating guys who only meet at bars?
Because her new type is emotionally available.
What did she realize after her assignment?
She can have fun sober.
How to challenge negative self-talk?
Use positive affirmations)
What should you do if you feel tempted at a social event?
Where to meet healthy people?
Classes, volunteer work, groups
What's the one thing you don't have to worry about when partying sober?
Losing your phone, Dignity or left shoe!!!
What's Susan's new favorite "High"?
When her paycheck clears and she actually remembers earning it!!!
what's one positive affirmation that actually works?
"I didn't catch a case today"- Short sweet and accurate!!!
What's the hardest part about having fun sober?
Why do relationships in early recovery feel like riding a roller coaster?
Because everyone's screaming, no one is buckled in and it's powered by unresolved trauma!!!
Whats the real meaning of having fun with others?
Laughing at pain, healing through chaos, and not dying in the process.