Setting Boundaries
Yes, physical space can be a boundary.
What is the golden rule?
Treat others how you want to be treated
What's an example of how to avoid crossing boundaries?
* Respect Each other
* Have Common Interests
* Stand up for yourself (respectfully)
* Have a personal life
* Settle Disagreements Peacefully
What are some examples of personal boundaries?
Physical Boundaries
Emotional Boundaries
Boundaries Surrounding Your Time
What is one SURPRISING piece of the Friendship Soup Recipe?
Arguments (Disagreements)
What are ways to cross boundaries?
* Verbally insulting, name calling..
* Physically harming (Pushing, Shoving, Hitting, Kicking)
* Threats (Causing fear to make someone comply)
* Blame or Shame
What are some mental boundaries?
Limitations/Boundaries on:
Thoughts
Values
Opinions
Beliefs
Do healthy friendships have boundaries?
Yes! Even in great friendships we have boundaries. In fact, we need them!
Ex) not sharing your friends secrets with others.
This is often an unspoken boundary, though sometimes a friend might say "Please don't share this with someone else..."
What would be the proper response if someone crosses one of your boundaries?
What's the difference between emotional boundaries, and mental boundaries?
Emotional boundaries help you separate your feelings from others. Mental boundaries are your thoughts, values, opinions, and beliefs.
Do healthy friendships require honesty?
Yes. Honesty builds the foundation of good and strong friendships. That means being honest about what you are or are not comfortable with while also being respectful about it.
What could be some consequences for crossing a boundary with a friend?
* They don't want to spend time with you as often
* They may ask for more space
*You may get in trouble them or an adult (if verbal or physical harm has taken place)
*You may injure the relationship
What is the definition of emotional boundaries? What happens if you cannot create those emotional boundaries?
Emotional boundaries help you to remember what you value and to keep others from overstepping your values. If you cannot create boundaries, negative emotions may come up.
Why is it important to feel safe in a friendship?
Because it allows us to open up to our friends in good times and in bad times. Being able to share important life events with your friends is a hallmark of a close friendship. We can't open up to people if they do not feel safe to us.
What are a few ways we can communicate when a boundary has been crossed?
"Please stop calling me that name. It makes me feel bad. If you continue to do that I will have to walk away from you (or not be your friend)"
"Please stop sharing my secrets to other people. It makes me feel like I can't trust you. If you continue to do that then I will not be your friend."