The Team Meeting
1. What would the ultimate post-practice snack look like?
2. What makes being understood by others important to you?
1. ex-chips, candy, etc.
2. identifying a reason why her voice matters (e.g-"So I don't feel lonely.").
1. in what ways should certain pizza toppings be banned forever and what makes the best toppings win?
2. What does your body do to warn you that a "red card" (anger) is coming?
1. any answer about her favorite pizza topping like mushrooms, tomatoes, black olives etc.
2. Naming a physical sensation (e.g "face gets hot, "clenched fists).
1. How would being an animal for a day change how you see the world?
2. How would a playmaker rephrase "You never listen" into an I-statement?
1. ex-being a dog for a day would allow me to bark all the time to get what I want.
2. using the formula I feel ________ when _______ because ________.
1. What about your favorite holiday makes it the best time of year?
2. Tell me about a win you had recently when you spoke up clearly.
1. description of your favorite holiday.
2. any positive interaction, no matter how small it is.
1. If you invented an ice-cream flavor, what unique ingredients would you use?
2. What is one small goal you feel ready to hit before next session?
1. any ingredients (ex-eggs, chocolate, oreos etc).
2. a specific manageable task (ex-I will use one i statement).
1. Describe a movie or a show you could watch a million times.
2. How would life at home change if you felt like a pro at speaking up?
2. naming a specific benefit (e.g "less arguing" or "getting to go out more.").
1. How would you decide what to buy first if you won $1,000 dollars today.
2. When you feel unheard, what is the internal commentary in your head?
1. any technique that helps you decide what to buy (e.g-having a budget).
2. Identifying a negative thought (e.g "They don't care about what I say.").
1. What is the weirdest thing that has ever happened during a soccer game?
2. what are ways to show your "in the zone" (listening) without words?
1. anything weird (e.g teammate pantsed the coach).
2. naming non-verbal cues (e.g eye contact, nodding, putting your phone away).
1. How would a "must-have" room in your dream house make you feel?
2. when you look back at the pantsing incident, what do you think the other person saw?
1. anything that you want in your dream room like purple walls, a comfortable bed, etc.
2. demonstrating perspective taking (e.g "They saw me as a person who was violating boundaries").
1. what is the best piece of advice a friend has ever given you?
2. How will you know when you have "scored a goal" in communication?
1. "believe in yourself" "do not worry about what haters think of you" etc.
2. describing the outcome (e.g "I'll feel proud and won't be grounded).
1. How does your favorite song describe your personality?
2. In what ways would healthy talking make your week feel better?
1. ex-it makes me feel calmer and more happy.
2. Visualizing a positive improvement (e.g "I wouldn't feel so on edge.").
1. Describe your favorite way to chill on a Saturday morning.
2. How does mind-reading act like a defender blocking your path
1. any relaxing activities such as watching netflix.
2. realizing that assuming thoughts leads to overreacting or "fouling."
1. If you were a famous youtuber, what would your channel be about?
2. If you had a "VAR Review" of a recent fight, how would you play it differently?
1. ex-food, music, tv shows, movies etc.
2. describing a redo using a skill (e.g "I would have walked away for 5 minutes).
1. What made the best gift you've ever received so special?
2. How can you use your soccer focus during a hard talk at home?
1. anything you liked about the gift.
2. anything that links athletic discipline to control (e.g "focus on the goal, not the anger).
1. How would time travel change how you see your life?
2. How can your teammates (friends/adults) best support your new plays?
1. any technique as to how time travel would make life harder or easier.
2. Identifying a support action (e.g "giving me a minute to cool down").
1. Tell me about the coolest place you've ever visited.
2. What are the top three benefits of being a "pro-communicator?"
1. any answer related to a place she liked (ex-India was a very interesting place that had a bunch of different foods from different cultures).
2. listing 3 perks (e.g respect, staying out of ISS, feeling calm).
2. What was the "internal commentary" in your head during the ISS incident?
1. any superpower like being able to fly, time travel, etc.
2. pinpointing the impulse thought (e.g "This will be funny. I won't get caught).
1. How are you planning to spend your time this summer to make it the best summer yet?
2. What are some pro-passes or questions you can ask to understand someone?
1. any summer plans like going out of town or going to visit family.
2. using a clarifying question (e.g-can you tell me more about that?
2. What is a strength you have (like bravery)that helps you speak your truth?
2. Identifying a character strength (e.g-"i am honest" or "I am brave.").
1. Tell me about a hobby you've always wanted to try.
2. If you gave a "post-game interview" in a month, what would be your secret?
1. explanation of desire to try new hobbies (ex-painting, playing another sport etc).
2. prediction of a success strategy (e.g "not giving up after a bad play).
2. When a situation in life gets tough, what keeps you committed to reach certain goals?
2. identifying an internal motivator (e.g "wanting to be a leader").
1. How does your favorite hidden talent help you in other parts of your life?
2. What is the hardest part about staying "in bounds" (calm) when you feel fouled?
1. anything about a hidden talent she has.
2. recognizing a barrier (e.g "my brain moves too fast to stop the impulse.").
1. What about a fictional character's life makes you want to trade places?
2. How does an I-statement help you keep possession of a conversation?
2. understanding that it prevents the other person from getting defensive.
1. In what ways are your favorite things about yourself not about school?
2. In what ways has your view of your communication style changed today?
2. any new self-insight (e.g "I realized I use humor when I am nervous").
2. What is one thing you want to affirm about how you showed up today?
1. any description of a perfect day (ex-i got an excellent score on my math test, i did not get ISS this week, my team won a soccer tournament).
2. a positive self-statement (e.g "I'm proud I was honest about ISS.").