Ways families handle conflict
Pretending that the problem is not there or simply ignoring it.
What is Avoidance?
Competition
What is have the tendency to make the problem worse, resentment or retaliation.
Physical/Behavioral
What is hitting, throwing things, pacing, elevated heart rate, red face, sweating?
Doing this is safely listening to anger.
What is using I statements, staying calm, listening without giving advice, give space, being supportive.
Hero
Who is that person, what do they mean to you, and why are they your hero? What can you do to be more like your hero?
Giving in to others or the other person.
What is Accommodation?
Compromise
What is getting past the issue and move on together?
Verbal
What is yelling, cussing, louder tone, crying, silence?
What do we NOT do when someone is acting aggressive?
What is approach them.
Goal setting
What does each member of the group want to accomplish inside and outside of this group?
Trying to get your way instead of addressing the problem.
What is Competition?
Accommodation
What is compromising yourself, feelings, and values?
Underlying emotions
What is sadness, embarrassment, depressed, lonely, hurt?
Common triggers for anger
What is substance use, guilt, shame, trauma, abandonment, ect.
Fear
What are some positive ways to face fears?
Practicing mutual give and take.
What is Compromise?
Collaboration
What is meeting everyone’s needs and cultivate commitment and responsibility?
Defense Mechanism
What is being in fight or flight mode and not feeling safe to share my thoughts or feelings?
Doing this is safely expressing anger.
What is taking a timeout, talk to someone you trust, exercise, thought stopping, progressive muscle relaxation, deep breathing, conflict resolution.
Grown up
When you were younger, what did you want to be when you grew up? How has that changed? Can you still be that thing?
Focus on working towards a solution together
What is Collaboration?
Avoidance
What is have the tendency to make the problem worse?
Fear Driven
What is outward expression of anger due to the fear of something? EX:(abandonment, rejection)
When we respond to conflict we should
What is balance the thinking and feeling? (I felt _____________ when ___________ happened. I think this happened because of _______________. It will help me release my feelings if I _________________. IN the future, it could help me to _____________________.)
Happiness
What is the happiest moment in your life? What made it so special?