What Can I Control?
Red Flags 🚩
Green Flags 💚
Respect & Communication
Faulty Thinking
100
You can control:
A) Other people’s feelings
B) Your words
C) Whether someone likes you
B) Your words
100
Calling someone 20 times in a row because they didn’t answer is:
A) Romantic
B) A red flag
B) A red flag
100
A healthy relationship includes saying thank you and showing gratitude.
This green flag is called:
A) Balance
B) Appreciation
C) Independence
B) Appreciation
100
A good apology includes:
A) Blaming the other person
B) Taking responsibility
C) Ignoring it
B) Taking responsibility
100
This thinking style means assuming you know what someone else is thinking.
A) Personalizing
B) Mind Reading
C) All-or-Nothing
B) Mind Reading
200
True or False:
You can control if someone texts you back.
False
200
“If you loved me, you would do this.”
This is:
A) Respectful
B) Manipulation
B) Manipulation
200
Respecting when someone says “no” is:
A) Healthy
B) Controlling
A) Healthy
200
If someone says “no,” you should:
A) Keep asking
B) Respect it
C) Get upset
B) Respect It
200
“We argued once. The relationship is over.”
This is an example of:
A) Healthy thinking
B) All-or-Nothing thinking
C) Respect
B) All-or-Nothing thinking
300
Which one is something you CAN control?
A) Your partner’s jealousy
B) Your reaction to a problem
C) Other people’s moods
B) Your reaction to a problem
300
Getting angry when your friend hangs out with others is:
A) Healthy
B) Controlling
B) Controlling
300
True or False:
In a healthy relationship, it’s okay to spend time apart and have your own friends.
True
(This is Balance / Independence)
300
What is a healthy way to solve a disagreement?
A) Yelling
B) Talking calmly
C) Silent treatment
B) Talking calmly
300
“They’re quiet. I must have done something wrong.”
What type of thinking is this?
A) Personalizing
B) Mind Reading
C) Green Flag
A) Personalizing
It’s when you blame yourself for things that might not be about you at all.”
400
“They’re mad. I need to fix their feelings.”
Is this something you can fully control?
A) Yes
B) No
No (You can be kind, but you cannot control their feelings.)
400
True or False:
If a relationship makes you feel unsafe or very uncomfortable, that is a warning sign.
True
400
A healthy relationship feels safe.
You should feel safe to:
A) Share your thoughts and feelings
B) Be yourself
C) Respect boundaries
D) All of the above
D) All of the above
(Safety + Self-Confidence)
400
This green flag means you can talk about your needs and listen to the other person too:
A) Honesty
B) Effective Communication
C) Commitment
B) Effective Communication
400
True or False:
Not every thought we have is a fact.
Answer: True
500
“You ask someone out and they say no.”
Name ONE thing you can control in this situation.
One thing you can control is how you respond.
For example, you can:
Stay calm
Be respectful
Take care of your feelings afterward (talk to someone, do something you enjoy)
500
Name one red flag in a friendship or relationship
(jealousy, controlling, pressure, insults, threats etc.)
500
Name one green flag in a relationship.
Honesty
Empathy
Respect
Communication
Safety
Independence
Commitment
Appreciation
500
Instead of assuming, what is one helpful thing you could say?
“Are you okay?”
“Did I do something?”
“Can we talk?”)
500
Rewrite this in a healthier way:
“They didn’t say hi. They hate me.”
(Possible answer: “Maybe they didn’t hear me.”)