Healthy Dating
What is a commitment?
Commitment is an unwavering devotion to someone no matter the circumstances
What is non-verbal communication?
The transmission of messages without words, using body language, facial expressions, eye contact, and other nonverbal cues
Name a red flag
Up for interpretation
What does RAM stand for in RAM model?
Relationship Attachment Model
When does your mind create a "trust profile" when you meet someone new?
From the moment that you meet or see someone
Define conscience
Conscience is your mind looking in the mirror. It monitors your thoughts, words and actions and then transports you out of your own perspective into someone else’s
Why is healthy communication important in relationships?
The more you can establish healthy communications skills before you marry, the more you can enhance your future marriage while also building protection against unforeseen crises and conflicts
Why is it a red flag to see a potential partner treating others poorly?
How they treat their friends should show how they would treat you. If they treat their friends and family poorly, they will most likely treat you the same
Will the RAM model naturally ascend or descend from left to right the more that you date someone?
You will form healthier relationships if it is descending
The soulmate you need is a person with whom you have a rich chemistry, whose differences make you better than you could be on your own, and who shares many of your core values and life goals, as well as some of your personality qualities and lifestyle” preferences
Is chemistry always a good judge of character?
Chemistry sees what it wants to see. Sometimes if you can get blinded and only see certain parts of a person because you really want it to work out.
How is unhealthy communication different from healthy communication?
Unhealthy communication comes across ineffectively whereas healthy communication is given respectfully and appropriately
What is a red flag?
A warning sign or behavior that indicates potential problems or unhealthy dynamics within the partnership, signifying a need for caution or to potentially reconsider the relationship due to potentially manipulative or abusive behavior
What are the 5 different areas of the RAM model?
Know, trust, rely, commit and touch
Should your "trust" ever be higher than your "know" on the RAM model?
NO
You should never be trusting someone more than you know them
What are core values?
Core values are fundamental beliefs of a person or organization. These are things that they believe to be necessary and hold true to.
Examples: Honestly, Integrity, Kindness, Compassion, Religious beliefs.
What are some ways to relieve conflict?
Both need to speak their minds. Mutual Assertiveness
Mutual Respect
Humility
Willingness to forgive
Resiliency to bounce back
What does it mean when your partner treats peripheral others poorly?
Treats strangers, cashiers, servers poorly
What are the two different domains in getting to know someone?
Relational and Situational
What are stereotypes?
A widely held, simplified, and often inaccurate belief about a group of people or things
What is the difference between complementary and comparability?
Complementary: combining in such a way as to enhance or emphasize the qualities of each other or another
Comparability: the fact or quality of being similar and able to be compared
What does SOLER– good listening posture- stand for?
Square off–make sure your shoulders are square with the person talking
Open–keep your arms and legs uncrossed so that you can have an open, non defensive position
Lean–lean forward toward the person talking
Eye contact–keep eye contact with the person talking
Relax–stay relaxed as you listen
What does it mean for a partner to have a negative mental script?
A mental road map of how to respond or act
Partner has a negative mental script and responds to high stress situations in a aggressive manner and is disrespectful to others when a difficulty arises
How is an IRA similar to relying on a partner?
An IRA (individual retirement account) is an account to help save for retirement. Many companies will match the amount that you put in. Example: If you put in $200 a month, your employer will also put in $200. Both parties put in the same amount to help you for your future
What is "the know quotient"?
The Know Quotient: Talk + Togetherness + Time