Friend/Frenemy
I often feel bad about myself around this person.
Frenemy...a friend should make you feel good to be around, not bad.
A true friend always lets me go first and have the first pick of everything.
Not healthy... True friends take turns, share and make things fair.
Before making a new friend, you should:
A. See if your other friends like the first.
B. Decide if you enjoy being around them.
B. If you enjoy being around somebody, it doesn't matter what other people think.
You can spot a frenemy by their looks.
False. Just because someone looks friendly doesn't mean they are nice. Judge a friendship based on actions.
Is it ok for friendships to change over time?
Helps me even when it's not convenient to him/her.
Friend...A true friend will be there for you during good times and bad.
My good friend has enough problems in her life, so it doesn't bother me when she is not able to help.
Not healthy - Good friends help each other regardless of their own problems in life. Be aware of friends who take but never give.
A friendship should feel...
A. easy and natural.
B. like hard work.
A. easy and natural
You should not have to work at a friendship.
I should set boundaries or limits with friends.
True.
Should I compare myself to my friends if it keeps me from doing something stupid?
No.
Comparing yourself to others is never a good idea. Be true to who you are and never be ashamed to that. Real friends will respect that.
I do things I really don't want to do - to keep them from getting mad.
Frenemy
Friends won't make you feel bad for not doing what they say.
I can have a fun time even without my best friend being around.
Healthy - Friends should feel independent enough to enjoy time away and have other friends. Being too dependent on somebody else is not healthy.
You should drop a friend if:
A. your best friend doesn't like them.
B. they don't like the same things you like.
C. none of the above.
C. You should never judge somebody based on the opinions of others. Make your own choices. You don't have to have everything in common to be friends.
It is your job to make sure your friend is always happy.
False...You can help a friend through hard times but you are not responsible for their happiness. They must find it themselves.
Friends are either true friends or frenemies.
True or false
False
Any friend can have qualities of a good friend and qualities of a frenemy. Be honest with friends and grow your friendship into a healthy one.
Makes fun of our other friends when they aren't around.
Possible Frenemy...Beware of friends who make fun of their friends. They may also do that to you when you are not around.
When I'm around my good friend, I am afraid that I will say something that will make them mad or sad.
Not healthy...One sign of a good friend is that you feel relaxed around them and not afraid of their reaction.
If your friend doesn't like something about you, you should...
A. change it so you can be closer friends
B. agree to disagree
B. Agree to disagree
Differences make life more fun. It would be boring if everyone was the same.
It's okay to do something you really don't want to do in order to keep a friendship.
A true friend would never stop being your friend just because you didn't do what they asked you to do.
My friend seems to be a frenemy. Should I get rid of them right away?
No.
First, be honest with your friend and give them a chance to do the right thing. But don't give them too many chances. Friendships should't be a lot of work.
My friend yells "I'm not your friend anymore" every time he/she doesn't get her way.
Frenemy...a friend would be willing to compromise and talk things out.
I should stop hanging out with people who don't respect my boundaries and rules of friendship.
Healthy...a true friend should respect your boundaries and rules of friendship.
My friend never listens to me and only wants to talk about his/her problems. I should...
A. let it go
B. tell them ow it makes me feel
B. You deserve to have equal attention. Always be honest with your friends and let them know how you feel. True friends will understand.
Good friends should talk every day to keep from growing apart.
False...
True friends keep their bond when they spend time apart. It's healthy to take breaks from each other and have other friends.
Is it good that I have a lot of fun with my friend even though he/she can be jealous and controlling.
No.
You cannot excuse bad behavior just because you also have a good time with somebody. Friendships should be easy. Don't put up with bad behavior. Move on.