Addiction & Relationships
Some examples of damaging behaviors addicted people engage in include:
Lying, Stealing, Engaging in violence, Breaking the law, Saying hurtful things, Being unfaithful.
Is conflict the same thing as fighting?
No. Conflict is a clash or disagreement.
In one of the most popular Dr. Seuss books, what won't Sam-I-Am eat?
Green eggs and ham
What are some indicators of healthy relationships?
Respect, trust, honesty, and communication
What is one way to ensure that you and your partner/friend are communicating effectively?
Be honest, listen, ask questions, be humble
What is Codependency?
An emotional and behavioral condition that influences a person's ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. People with codependency are often in relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive, and dysfunctional. Fear of rejection, controlling, poor boundaries, people pleasing.
What is one unhealthy way to engage in conflict?
Yelling, shouting, blaming, or hitting
Which astronomer is called out in “Bohemian Rhapsody”?
Galileo
Is it healthy to be separately involved in activities or organizations and have individual hobbies from your friends/family/partner? Why or why not?
Yes, it is healthy to have individual interests and to have some independence from each other.
What is something you should notice or pay attention to when having a conversation with your partner/friend?
Nonverbal communication and body language
Who does Addiction affect?
Everyone in the user's life.
What is one way you can avoid making your partner/friend defensive when talking about a difficult issue?
Use "I" statements, talk about your own feelings, try to understand where the other person is coming from, avoid accusing the other person
What’s the best-selling Christmas single of all time?
White Christmas by Bing Crosby
What is something you can do to ensure that you are taking care of yourself and keeping your sanity in a relationship?
Keep balance in your life (ex: between a relationship, friends, family, school/classes, work, and other activities)
What are some problems that might occur due to lack of communication?
arguing, misinterpretation, confusion, assuming
What is enabling?
Enabling occurs when another person, often a codependent, removes the natural consequences of the addict’s behavior, thereby aiding in the continuance of his or her drug use.
What is something you can do to cool down during a disagreement?
Take a time-out from the disagreement or limit your discussion time
What is the name of the world's hottest chili pepper?
Carolina Reaper
You start off with a solid foundation for a healthy relationship with your partner/friend. What is something that you can acknowledge that will help your relationship grow?
Discuss expectations, have realistic expectations, and realize that relationships and people change (so try to be flexible)
What are some signs that you are not communicating effectively with your partner/friend?
Not feeling comfortable or being afraid to express wants, needs, fears, etc.., or dreading/avoiding conversations about difficult topics
What are some ways you can repair relationships after entering recovery?
Putting your recovery above everything else. Being honest and trustworthy. Acknowledge what behaviors need to change and how you've hurt them in the past. Be patient.
What are some things that can turn a conflict into a fight?
Making threats, giving ultimatums (ex: Do this, or else!), accusing without listening, not being willing to apologize or take the blame, getting physical with your partner/friend
How many ghosts show up in “A Christmas Carol”?
Bonus: Name them all
Ghosts of Christmas Past, Present, and Future, and Marley
What is active listening and what does it involve?
A way of listening and responding to another person that improves mutual understanding. Pay attention, show that you're listening, provide feedback, be nonjudgmental, be respectful, and respond appropriately.
Why is communication necessary?
Conflicts can be resolved effectively, avoids confusion or misunderstandings, can prevent arguments, creates trust