Boundaries
What is a boundary?
Personal limits we set for ourselves that help others understand how we want to be treated.
what is consent?
giving permission for something to happen; mutually agreeing to do something
Define a healthy relationship
a relationship where both people are equal and treat each other with kindess and respect
Not standing up for yourself, not expressing your needs or feelings
A)Passive B)Aggressive C)Assertive D) Passive Aggressive
A)Passive
What's my name
Andrea
What type of boundary is being set: I don't like when people touch my stuff without asking.
A) Physical B) Emotional C) Intellectual D) Material
D) Material
What is enthusiastic consent?
Obvious YES
list 3 key elements of a HR
respect, safety, and equality
What style of comm is this:
"guess I'll just plan the hangout, AGAIN..."
A)Passive B)Aggressive C)Assertive D) Passive Aggressive
D) Passive Aggressive
What's the name of the org I work for?
DVS of SnoCo
What type of boundary is this: My girlfriend can't be friends with other guys/ girls.
Is it Fair or Unfair, and why
Unfair boundary, enforcing rules onto someone else
What does informed consent mean?
People have to know what will happen if they say yes, full disclosure.
What is an unhealthy relationship?
one or both people engage in unhealthy behaviors, due to a lack of skills
I don't wanna be your friend anymore, you can never take a joke and it's so annoying.
A)Passive B)Aggressive C)Assertive D) Passive Aggressive
B)Aggressive
Who do we serve?
Anyone who has experienced intimate partner violence
Define and give an example of what an intellectual boundary looks like
Relates to your opinions, values, beliefs, intellectual property.
What does revocable consent mean?
People can change their mind at any time, for any reason, after they say yes.
Name some behaviors you'd see in a toxic/ unhealthy relationship
unhealthy conflict, distrust, power struggle, unclear expectations
What does healthy communication look like?
consistent, kind, accepting, validating, honest
Name 10 states in 15 seconds
What can you do if someone keeps crossing your boundaries?
List the 6 different elements of consent.
Bonus question: define coercion and the different types
Verbal, ongoing, informed, conscious, enthusiastic, revocable (V.O.I.C.E.R.)
Coercion: when someone persuades you to do something against your will (blackmail, pressure, threats, emotional manipulation, force)
Why do we say that relationships exist on a spectrum?
They can change, become more or less healthy depending on the effort being put in.
what does assertive communication look like?
I win, you win. You share your needs and feelings and allow space for the other person to do the same.
What is the fastest animal on Earth?
1. cheetah
2. black marlin
3. peregrine falcon