Attached at the hip
This attachment style is characterized by trust in relationships, good intimacy, communication, and autonomy.
What is Secure Attachment?
Qualities often found in healthy relationships, such as appreciation, empathy, and effective communication.
What are Relationship Green Flags?
A "Fair Fighting Rule" that advises focusing on the current problem instead of bringing up unrelated issues.
What is "Discuss one topic at a time"?
A type of manipulation causing a person to doubt their own beliefs, sanity, or memory.
What is Gaslighting?
A tip for creating secure attachment is to investigate what is true about your current relationships and abandon these.
What are outdated beliefs and interpretations?
Individuals with this insecure style often worry about their partner's availability and commitment and may seek excessive reassurance.
A "Relationship Green Flag" where you find happiness in time spent together and apart, meeting some needs outside the relationship.
What is Balance?
According to the "How to Apologize" handout, this is the first step before taking responsibility or listening.
What is "Reflect on your Actions"?
This process is described as letting go of resentment and anger, primarily for your own healing, not for the other person.
What is Forgiveness?
If you have an avoidant attachment style, a tip for creating security is to try letting down your guard and initiating this.
What is intimacy?
This insecure attachment style can make someone seem aloof and emotionally detached, often avoiding intimacy and vulnerability.
What is Avoidant Attachment?
In the "Relationship Check-In," categories like Beliefs & Values, Communication, and this area help assess relationship health.
What are Intimacy, Family & Friends, or Finances & Household? (Accept any one)
A "Fair Fighting Rule" that involves avoiding put-downs, swearing, or name-calling.
What is "No degrading language"?
A gaslighting warning sign where the manipulator tells the victim an event didn't happen or didn't happen the way they remember it.
What is Denial?
Learning to express and tolerate your emotions to better accept and empathize with your partner's.
What is "Increase your emotional awareness"?
A person with this insecure attachment style may alternate between anxious and avoidant behaviors, desiring yet distrusting intimacy.
Anxious-Avoidant Attachment?
A "Relationship Green Flag" indicating you take your partner's perspective and understand their feelings, even if you don't always agree.
What is Empathy?
An apology shows you are secure enough to admit you've done something wrong, and it shows this for yourself and the other person.
What is respect?
True or False: Forgiveness means you must continue the relationship as it was.
What is False? (After forgiving, you can choose to resume, modify, or end the relationship).
A tip for creating secure attachment is to observe how people with these types of relationships think and behave.
What are healthy relationships?
According to the handout, early parenting, childhood events, and these experiences all play a role in determining attachment style.
What are adult experiences?
This "Relationship Green Flag" means your actions align with your words, and the thoughts and feelings you express are genuine.
What is Honesty?
A "Fair Fighting Rule" where if an argument gets too personal or heated, you should do this and agree to resume later.
What is "Take a time-out"?
A gaslighting warning sign where the manipulator insults and degrades the victim so they come to doubt themselves.
What are Put-downs?
One way to minimize stressors, which can worsen attachment issues, is to commit to this and address conflict before it escalates.
What is self-care?