Green Flags
This quality means you can count on someone to do what they say.
What is reliability / trustworthiness?
A partner checking your phone without permission is an example of this.
What is a red flag / lack of trust?
Boundaries are about protecting this person first.
What is yourself?
Name one kind of boundary.
Physical, emotional, time, etc.
True or False: Codependency is healthy.
What is False?
A healthy relationship is built on this 5-letter word.
What is trust?
True or False: Love bombing — overwhelming someone with gifts and attention early on — is a healthy start to a relationship.
What is False?
This type of boundary protects your time, energy, and mental space.
What is an emotional/mental boundary?
Turning “You make me angry” into “I feel angry when this happens” is using this technique.
What is an ‘I’ statement?
People in codependent relationships often feel responsible for another person’s ___.
What is feelings / emotions / happiness?
True or False: Honesty is optional in a healthy relationship.
What is False?
When someone uses guilt trips to cross your boundaries, this is a form of ___.
What is emotional manipulation?
Boundaries are meant to keep relationships ___, not push people away.
What is healthy / respectful?
Sarcasm, ignoring messages, or backhanded comments are examples of this style.
What is passive-aggressive communication?
This is the opposite of codependency, where both people support each other while staying independent.
What is interdependence?
When a person admits mistakes and works to change, they are practicing this healthy quality.
What is accountability?
This red flag shows up when one person demands to know your whereabouts constantly and views independence as rejection.
What is controlling behavior / surveillance?
A person who can’t say no may struggle with this issue.
What is people-pleasing?
“I can’t go out tonight, but I’d love to hang out this weekend” is an example of this.
What is compromise?
Codependency often comes from childhood experiences in families with these issues.
What is substance use, abuse, neglect, or dysfunctional dynamics?
Name one way that respect can be shown during conflict.
Listening without interrupting / validating feelings / avoiding name-calling, etc.
This red flag often starts small (jokes, “teasing”) but grows into verbal abuse.
What is disrespect / belittling?
Boundaries are often confused with this, which is more rigid and shuts people out completely.
What are walls?
Miscommunication often happens when people assume this instead of clarifying.
What are assumptions / mind-reading?
In recovery, breaking free from codependency often requires building this skill first.
What is self-worth / self-identity / self-esteem?