Name the Healthy Behavior
Benny and Kim have been dating for 3 months. Benny learned last week that Kim’s favorite flower is a rose. After she has a tough day, Benny decides to get her a bouquet of roses.
What is KINDNESS?
Teah and Demar just started dating. Teah tells Demar that they must sit together every day at lunch or else she won't date him. She also tells Demar that he can't have any friends who are girls, and he must tell her who he is with at all times.
What is ISOLATION?
Laila and Matt love to hang out. They laugh, let loose, and genuinely enjoy each other’s company any time they are together. Lalia and Matt make each other happy and know no matter what they can be themselves around each other.
What is FUN?
Kayla and Emad are close friends and hang out a lot. Sometimes, when they are in big groups, Kayla will make fun of Emad's appearance to score some laughs. She decides to tell him the jokes make her upset and feel small. Emad responds, “You know I’m not serious, we’re just joking around.”
What is BELITTLING?
True or False, abuse can only be present in a relationship if one person is physically harmed by their partner?
FALSE!
(Emotional or Sexual Abuse can make a relationship abusive)
Darius has a huge crush on Adriana but is nervous to tell their mutual friend Jalen. Darius decides to tell Jalen, and Jalen never mentions a word of it to Adriana.
What is TRUST?
All week, Brian and Gabe had plans to hang out after school on Friday. That day, some of the guys in the band asked Gabe to hang out. Instead of talking to Brian about changing their plan, Gabe decides to lie and say he has a doctor’s appointment. Brian sees a video of them all together and is upset that Gabe broke his trust.
What is BETRAYAL?
Liza is constantly hugging her friends. Her best friend Meg tells her it makes her uncomfortable. While Liza loves to give hugs, she is understanding of Meg’s boundaries.
What is RESPECT?
Sam has a big test coming up and knows he needs to study. His best friend, Chris, wants him to go to the county fair the night before the test. Chris pressures Sam, saying, “What do you care about more, this stupid test or our friendship?”
What is GUILTING?
True or false, you have to stay in a relationship unless there are 2 or more of the unhealthy relationship behaviors?
FALSE!
(There is no set number of behaviors that defines abusive or unhealthy)
Because they enjoy doing different things, Darren and Jose alternate who gets to choose what they do on dates. Their approach allows both Darren and Jose to feel valued and heard in their relationship.
What is EQUALITY?
After a few months of dating, Kim and Maggie are hanging out alone in Kim’s basement. Kim keeps trying to take off Maggie’s shirt, but Maggie tells her she doesn’t think she’s ready for that. Kim responds, “Well, if you really love me, then you'd do it.”
What is MANIPULATION?
Chris and Matt are good friends who poke fun at each other sometimes. One day, Chris makes a joke about Matt’s dislike of sports. Everyone laughs, including Matt, but later Matt lets Chris know how it made him feel. Matt feels comfortable letting Chris know which jokes are okay and which go too far.
What is HONESTY?
Deandre and Alexis are in a group project together, and they decide to split the work in half. When they get their final grade, Deandre realizes that Alexis didn’t finish her half of the assignment, and as a result, they got a 50%. Alexis tells Deandre it’s his fault for not telling her exactly how to do it because she isn’t as smart as him.
What is DEFLECTING RESPONSIBILITY?
Somebody who intervenes when they see something that is wrong?
What is an UPSTANDER?
Jasmine and Anita are best friends who enjoy working on school projects together. When Jasmine explains that she would prefer to work on an upcoming history project alone, Anita completely understands.
What is INDEPENDENCE?
Ben and Carlos are best friends and have played on the B team for their soccer club for 5 years. When Carlos finds out that Ben might get moved up to the A team, he is upset that they won't play together anymore. He tells Ben that he has to stay on the B team, or they will no longer be friends.
What is SABOTAGE?
Ayana tells her friends Bella and Lisa that she is going on a date with Brad, but asks them not to tell anyone. The next day, Bella lets the secret out, and everyone at school knows. When Ayana finds out what Bella did, she speaks to her about how she feels. Bella acknowledges her mistake and promises never to betray her again.
What is TAKING RESPONSIBILITY?
Gabby has a crush on Ryan, but he doesn’t feel the same way. Gabby tells everyone she just has to dance with Ryan at the upcoming Homecoming Dance. She asks her teachers and Ryan’s friends if they can make this happen. At the dance, they danced together because she told his friends she would cry if it didn't happen.
What is INTENSITY?
True or False-
Just because someone consents to something once doesn't mean they consent to doing it again at a later time.
True!
Both parties need to consent on every occasion.
Jessie and Alyssa met during the first week of school and have been spending a ton of time together. After hanging out constantly for three days, Jessie lets Alyssa know that he wants to take a break. Alyssa tells him she understands and takes the break as an opportunity to get to know other students in their class.
What is a COMFORTABLE PACE?
Every week, Julia and Elena go to a park to hang out after school. When Julia finds that Elena sometimes hangs out at their park with other friends, she gets super jealous. Julia says, “I don’t care if you hang out with other people, but this park is OUR place! How could you go with someone else?”
What is POSESSIVENESS?
Ava is angry at Billy because he forgot about their date. Ava doesn’t want to say something she doesn’t mean, and decides to hold off on having a conversation until she has calmed down. She tells Billy that they should wait until the next day to talk about what happened.
What is HEALTHY CONFLICT?
This is a mutual and voluntary agreement between two people to do something that both people want to do. What term best describes this?
What is CONSENT?
True or False-
When someone purposefully does something to hurt your reputation or interferes with your achievements and successes, it is sabotage.
YES!
A partner in a healthy relationship would celebrate your achievements and successes, and would defend your reputation.