Communication
This communication style involves clearly stating wants and needs without blaming or attacking the other person.
What is assertive communication
Taking deep breaths, counting to 10, listening to music, and journalling are all strategies for this skill.
What is self-regulation
True or false: It's important to avoid scenarios where you might be rejected in order to protect your self-esteem
False! This will lead to missing out on opportunities or things you want to experience
It may be considered rude to end a relationship over ____
What is text message
True or false: You need to be 100% sure that someone likes you before asking them out
False
People pleasers often have this communication style
What is passive
This conflict resolution strategy involves looking for a win-win solution so everyone is happy
What is a compromise
True or false?
Being rejected means there's something wrong with you and you should change to avoid future rejection
False! Being rejected doesn't mean someone isn't liked, valued, or important. It just means that one time, in one situation, with one person, things didn't work out
A friend or partner engaging in behaviour that makes you feel unsafe, violating your boundaries, or guilt-tripping you may mean you're in an _______ relationship
What is unhealthy
Fill in the blank on the relationship elevator
Meeting someone-- Dating-- Defining the relationship-- Being a couple-- _________-- Merging lives-- Formalizing the relationship-- Legacy
What is commitment
This communication style is direct, but also forceful, demanding, and intimidating.
What is aggressive
Asking questions like “Can you explain what you meant?” helps avoid this common issue.
What is miscommunication
Telling yourself that a rejection isn't reflective of who you are, that you'll find the right person, and that you're still a good person are all examples of what?
What is positive self-talk
Choosing to give another person space, avoiding pressuring them, and not messaging them repeatedly are all aspects of respecting someone's ______
What are boundaries
This is the first step if you want to ask someone out
Find out if the person you're interested in is interested in you
Change this into an "I feel statement"
You never listen to my ideas and you always make plans without me
I'm feeling unheard and when I'm not included in plans I feel unimportant/left out/forgotten
Trying to understand how the other person is feeling—especially during conflict—is this skill.
What is empathy/perspective taking
Understanding that rejection isn't reflective of your worth and seeing it as an opportunity to learn for next time is an example of having a _______ mindset
What is growth
Setting distance for a while after rejection is an example of this kind of healthy emotional boundary
What is space
This word describes limits that keep you emotionally and physically safe.
What are boundaries
Trevor wants to go to a sushi restaurant for dinner, but one of his friends is allergic to sushi so they suggest somewhere else. Trevor tells his friend that they're being too picky, that they should just find something they like, and that if they don't agree he'll just go with someone else.
What type of communication style is Trevor using? What can he do to resolve the conflict?
Aggressive communication
Trevor and his friend should try to compromise to find a restaurant that will work for both of them.
You and a sibling/peer are both frustrated and starting to raise your voices. What can you do in the moment to de-escalate?
Take a short pause and come back when you're feeling calmer, practice self-regulation like taking a deep breath, focus on the problem- not the person, and use I-statements
Kevin focused on going to his dream school for university. He studied hard, did his best on the application, and got great references. Despite his effort Kevin got rejected. Describe a well adjusted response.
Kevin feels upset for awhile, but knows he's still a smart, hardworking student. He changes his plan and applies to another school with the goal of applying to transfer after his first year.
Daria and James have been dating for 6 months, but Daria decides to break up with James. In response James makes a plan to conveniently be in the places that Daria frequents in order to see her, send her a dozen texts a day to show his love for her and his commitment to their relationship, and reminds Daria that she'll never find anyone as good as him.
Is James behaving in a way that's well adjusted? Why or why not? What should he do differently?
James is not behaving in a way that's well adjusted. He's not respecting Daria's boundaries, being disrespectful, and manipulative. James can feel upset, angry, or disappointed but should respect Daria's feelings and give her space. It may be helpful for James to practice some self-care and/or speak to a trusted individual about his feelings.
Lisa has a crush on Noah, but she's not sure he likes her back. When they're hanging out she leans over and kisses him. What should Lisa have done before kissing him? What is a healthier way for Lisa to gain more clarity about a relationship?
Lisa should ask for consent before kissing someone.
Instead she could express how she's feeling, ask Noah about his feelings, and/or look for signals of interest like Noah initiating conversations, asking about her, smiling and making eye contact, spending more time with her one-on-one, and flirting with her.